Happened last night. I (M25) was having margaritas with my roommate and simply had way too much for my own good. Our friend came over about an hour later and we kept making more.
At some point we went for a walk and the alcohol definitely hit harder I was very buzzed but still able to walk and talk just fine. We got back to the apartment and everything seemed fine except I didnt stop drinking . Two more friends came over and same thing , had more margaritas played music and danced a bit until we decided to go to the restaurant where my girlfriend (F24) works at.
She serves tables there so we figured we could get a table in her section about an hour before close once the restaurant starts to slow down. We got sat and thats honestly all I remember. The moment I gained consciousness I was for some reason incredibly angry at my girlfriend , my roommate was trying to talk me out of my delusion and I was going outside (not sure why) .
Apparently I was yelling and screaming inside the restaurant and left, the other servers told my girlfriend to not serve me anymore and to leave it at that. Minutes later my girlfriend passed out from being at work all day. Her blood sugar dropped and she lost consciousness for a minute till’ she got help from her peers.
I don’t know exactly how things played out because I was so drunk but according to my girlfriend she said I was on the phone with her telling her to leave and go home super angry and when she got home she laid on the couch , yet for some reason I went and shook her asking her what happened and why she passed out.
I have really vague memory of this but she claims I pushed her really hard about once or twice , trying to get her to sit down while telling her to shut the fuck up and throwing my phone, being a total asshole really. Thats when my roommate intervened and I gained consciousness again. I went outside and both my girlfriend and roommate brought me back inside afterward.
He gave me a hug and that seemed to calm me down however my girlfriend was just angry at me for being ridiculous. We went to bed and thats when she filled me in on what I didn’t remember I had done. Woke up with just about the worst hangover and missed work too.
Worst of all my girlfriend is incredibly upset at me for the right reasons and this morning i’ve tried to apologize and talk to her but obviously its not about that. Its about how my girlfriend was at work all day probably stressed about a million things , had a break down of her own and then came her drunk boyfriend to ruin the night even more for her.
I fucked this one up hard and I don’t know what to do. I feel really down about everything and can’t help to feel bad for my girlfriend. She doesn’t deserve any of this, she very sweet and kind at heart, w my horrendous behavior thats done this and I take all accountability for what happened.
TL;DR
I got too drunk last night , caused a scene at a restaurant, pushed and yelled at my girlfriend after she had passed out from low blood sugar. Now she’s upset and will probably break up with me.
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Eee yeah you should stop drinking. Usually leads to bad things. I stopped drinking over a year ago, nothing better than sobriety.
Gf passed out from the stress of you
So you probably got her fired and you assaulted her I hope she dumps you for her sake
Time to take a serious break from alcohol. You potentially have lost your girlfriend, embarrassed and compromised her at her work, and made a damn fool of yourself to your roommate. You should feel great shame and remorse.
Was it worth the margaritas?
Well step one, no more alcohol for you for the foreseeable future. If you can’t control how much you drink or what your behavior is when you do, you lose your alcohol privileges.
Step two is apologize sincerely but then give your girlfriend space. She would be well within her rights to end the relationship; your unpredictable behavior could have lost her her job. You DEFINITELY humiliated her at her place of employment.
Step three is self-assessment. Everyone makes mistakes and it sounds like this night was one of those. But if this is a pattern for you, you should look into therapy or some kind of support to help you understand and gain control of your relationship with alcohol. “Blacking out and making a scene in public” is a pretty classic experience for folks who have a problematic relationship with drinking.
I desperately hope she leaves you and you take it as a wake up call
Ya you deserve it be broken up with ngl Time to take a break from alcohol
You need to stop drinking. You are an alcoholic.
Damn. I’m not sure there’s a simple way to simply apologize and make this better. You need to start by taking accountability. You chose to drink that much and continued to drink even after you realized you were drunk. You then made the rather poor decision to go to where your gf worked in that condition.
I’m not sure how you recover from this one with her or even if you should because this is some immature and selfish behavior on your part she might not be willing to just forget and forgive.
I’d recommend making a pitcher of margaritas and getting yourself a girlfriend who parties as hard as you…