TLDR: I binged on donuts and bagels in the morning because I felt frustrated and overwhelmed and want to cry with all the pressure my family is putting on me and I feel like I’m spreading myself thin and just mentally and physically checking out.
I’m obese rn and I lost 10 pounds about a month ago and i need to lose more, but I’ve been stressed with job hunting and the intense pressure my parents have been putting on me. I’ve been getting yelled at and just been exploited to do housework and run pointless errands and as soon as i come in their sight. Its like, did you get a job yet?? if not, dont talk to us. My sister hates me and there is a pet bird in the household, but I’m not even allowed to play with it in my room, when i asked for my own pet bird, I got yelled at. And then today my brother. slammed the door to my car so hard it triggered me. And I was like fuck it, I went to dunkin and got 4 donuts, three cotton candy and one boston creme and a bagel with cream cheese. This is not good for me because I’ve had binge eating disorder and just recently fixed my eating habits. But the way I get treated and abused by my family is exhausting. Too much expectations from me and im exhausted and want to cry.
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It’s normal to take a step backwards on the journey forward. Just keep focusing on your goals. Hope you can move out soon.
First of all, congratulations on your weight loss; that’s excellent progress.
You had a blip. You’ve not lost your progress, just stalled for today and have learned a trigger so you’re now better prepared for the future.
What do you think you could do in future when you feel under pressure? A bit of deep breathing, watch a mindfulness video, something like that?
One day won’t ruin a diet. Just don’t make it a habit.
Not even gonna say much, but the most helpful and calming sentence I’ve ever read about any long-term struggle you’re trying to get out of is: “Progress isn’t linear.” Kinda became my mantra. What you did wasn’t ideal, but what matters is how you move forward. There’s always gonna be setbacks, but with time, the breaks between them become longer. All the best to you!
As you’ve witnessed firsthand, changing your habits is one thing, treating the disorder is another.
The things that cause stress, anxiety, that trigger disordered behavior… Those are all still present in your life. It sounds like you have a pretty unhealthy living situation. Focus on getting that job so you can get away from your family who are not kind to you, and then get yourself into some therapy to help you with all of this.
The only fuck up is if you quit – keep on moving forward
It’s normal and okay to have a setback. Keep pushing for your goal – prove your family wrong. The only person who can do it for you, is you. Seek out things that make you happy to revitalize you; try to find a support system; listen to motivational talks; do small workouts in your room (like a ten min yoga) to fill time and stay on track – any exercise is better than none. YOU CAN DO THIS.
Bruh’ next time at least get good donuts. Dunkin Donuts come out of the grease stale.
NFU. congratulations on the weight loss !!!!
Keep moving forward on weight loss. It’s a process.
Keep moving forward job hunting. Happens to us all.
Forgive yourself and keep moving forward.
Eventually forgive your family members if you can too. Anger and resentment eats at your soul.
Two steps forward, one step back. Two steps forward.
You got this!
Look at it another way – you’re already 10 pounds down from last month. Setbacks are normal, but as long as you don’t allow them to stop you being consistent it will have little to no affect.
In one day 4 donuts seems like a lot of extra calories, but over a month it’s nothing. Don’t let a small setback derail your progress or change your mindset. Stay positive and consistent and you’ll continue seeing results.
Stuff happens. Of course that’s not the best way for anyone to deal with stress but like others have said it’s not the end of the world. Don’t be too hard on yourself and definitely don’t do the opposite to make up for it. That’s something I have struggled with in the past. Just take this as a sign that you need to focus on your distress tolerance. DBT techniques can be very helpful. Maybe it could be something to look into.
three donuts of the same flavour is wild. tell me more about this bird?
I hope you have a therapist. If you don’t, you need one.
It’s ok op- but you are sure throwing a lot of blame around for someone in control of their body.
I totally get why you would- but remember that nobody MADE you eat anything. Except you.
I hope you’re able to connect with a therapist and dietitian who specialize in binge eating disorder.
Stress eating sucks, and a combo with your eating disorder is a no bueno. Focus on yourself and don’t worry about your family, do some workouts/eat something beneficial at your own pace and don’t be too hard on yourself either, best to love than to hate leaving you miserable and unwanted.
I was talking to my therapist about addiction and addiction treatment awhile back. He told me a phrase he heard from an addiction specialist, something the specialist used with their own patients when they find themselves in a situation like yours.
The phrase is: “Let’s not waste a perfectly good relapse.”
99.99% of addiction recovery journeys will include at least one relapse. No one is perfect. Everyone stumbles. And they’re an important and useful part of the process.
They give us an opportunity to ask ourselves: What factors led to the relapse? Why did those factors overwhelm me this time when they haven’t on other occasions? Is there anything else I could have done to manage those factors without relapsing? How can I help myself make those better choices in the future? What can I learn from this experience, and how can I USE what I learned?
If you beat yourself up and hate yourself (which you don’t deserve, btw) you lose that opportunity to make it a learning experience that can help you in that future.
Let’s not waste a perfectly good relapse. ❤️
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