I just wanna preface that I am infamously faceblind. Just today I saw a women I was convinced was my own sister (it was not).
Anyways I just started a new bartending job in my local town, very kushty. A new waitress started today who I thought was pretty cute. Long blonde hair, seemed very mellow and pleasant. I showed her the ropes, made light small talk, very pleasant overall.
On my break I get to talking to her a bit more and I ask what she’s doing for education. She tells me she’s in her first year of college, like myself. So I ask ‘did you go to (local high school I went to)?’ and she responds ‘yes we were in the same year, we were in miss cotters maths class together remember?’
Finally it clicks that I’ve seen this girl around for the last 6 years or so. Back then she had short dark hair with long bangs and we never spoke to eachother, so I wasn’t too hard on myself for not recognising her. I apologized and we went back to work.
Later she offered to help me in my bar with just the two of us, had nice conversations and what not. I and all the other bartenders were chatting together as she left and the only said goodbye to me (which I thought was cute).
After she left, I wanted to find a photo of her from back then to compare to now, just for my own amusement. So I look up her insta…
My face when I realised I had slid into her DMs six goddamn months ago and we had chatted a little, and I never recognised her either fucking time.
I didn’t just fail to put two and two together, I failed to put THREE AND THREE together. Currently cooking up a casual apology for tomorrows shift.
TL;DR: I didn’t recognise new coworker as a girl I went to school with for 6 years, and then didn’t realise it was the same girl I texted with a little 6 months ago.
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Shoot your shot my boy
Her: I barely register with this guy, he must have a line of hotties from his bedroom around the block.
It’s okay. I barely recognize people in my class too, especially if we don’t talk. I had some people come up to me and remind me about the class we were in. I was and still clueless of who they are.
Faceblindness is for real, a legit medical condition (prosopagnosia.)
There’s a good Ted Talk on Youtube by a person who has it (Fleassy (?) is her first name, I think.) Check it out if you want.
Regardless, I still think you have a chance with this girl! I don’t see this as a FU, more kind of endearing and possibly a good story to laugh about together later, if that makes sense!
If you have / get an actual diagnosis, well, now you have a truly indisputable reason for not realising it was her!
Go well and good luck. 😉
Seems like she doesn’t give an f though, think you’re in the clear
I’m not totally faceblind like some, but when my daughter was with a group of same age little girls, I was sunk if they were in the same outfits at times (scouts, dance recital, etc).
I also had a job where failing to recognize people was pretty detrimental. Fortunately, I’m much better at voices, plus recalling lots of facts about prior contacts once I know who they are.
I’ve learned to acknowledge the face blindness when “caught” and try to immediately refer to past conversations so they know I remember them, even though I didn’t recognize them. In fact, that became a bit of a catch phrase “I may not recognize you, but I will remember you.”