Hear me out, my birthday was last week, and I was excited but also overwhelmed with the planning. I invited a bunch of people, got the cake, and booked a venue she was with me all that time. After that, as my birthday being closer and closer, and all the chaos, the excitement took me. Then the important day, I arrived in the venue, completely forgot to invite my best friend. I’m so used to her always being there that it didn’t even cross my mind. I didn’t realize until halfway through the party when someone asked where she was. I texted her quickly saying, “Come over if you can!” But by then, she had already seen the party pictures online and was hurt. I feel like a terrible friend now.
TL;DR: Was so used to my best friend always being there for me, I forgot to invite her during the birthday. She saw the party pics on Socmed and is now hurt.
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Terrible
Ok ok, I see both sides. I think as your bestie it should be assumed that she’s invited obvi especially if she was part of the planning! And yes in the hustle and bustle the official invite to her probably slipped your mind. But I can also see being hurt but not receiving the official invite and just seeing the party on socials.
So… she was with you through all the planning but didn’t assume, as your best friend, that she was very obviously invited?
I mean I can understand both sides here but also, why would she not assume she was obviously invited? I could see if she wasn’t with you through the planning of things. But you say she was.
I think it’s a mutual misunderstanding, a bump in the road to learn a couple lessons from
I forgot to send my own mother an invitation to my wedding. We’re super close and everything, it just slipped my mind when making the list. Things happen, it’s not intentional. Apologize and explain that you assumed she knew she was invited
The “come over if you can” message seems hurtful and a bit dismissive. You should have been honest like “girl, I fucked up…” and basically what you wrote here. A call would have been nicer than a text too.
Also if she’s your best friend and helping you pick cakes and stuff, why didn’t she assume she was invited?
Maybe y’all aren’t as close as you think.
Kind of weird on her part to assume she wasn’t invited when she was with you for the whole process. If there was any uncertainty, I would have guessed it would come up at some point during your time together before the party.
Were there formal invitations sent or something? Most birthday parties I’ve been to have just been an informal call or text beforehand.
Sounds like you take your friend for granted. Did you not make it clear to her during the planning process that she was invited?
How childish are you, anyway? A birthday party? For yourself? That’s weird.
just be honest with her about what happened. if you guys are that close, i’m sure she’ll understand.
She’s your best friend, helped you plan the whole thing, but the invitation wasn’t implied? I kinda don’t get it. Obviously you wanted her there.