God I feel like such a terrible person right now. My friend Sarah’s wedding was yesterday and I told her I had food poisoning and couldn’t make it. The truth is I just really didn’t want to go.
I’m 27M and honestly weddings stress me out. Plus Sarah’s been super bridezilla lately and the whole thing was going to be super expensive. The bachelor party alone cost me $400 and I’m still broke from that.
So Friday night I text her saying I’m throwing up and can’t travel. She was really sweet about it and said she understood and hoped I felt better soon. I felt bad but also relieved.
Well today I’m scrolling Instagram and see that my coworker posted a story from some bar. And there I am in the background, clearly not sick, having beers with my buddies. I didn’t even think about social media when I decided to go out.
Sarah hasn’t said anything yet but I know she follows my coworker. I’m just waiting for her to see it and realize I lied. The wedding looked beautiful from all the photos and I feel like such a jerk for missing it over stupid anxiety.
I want to come clean but I don’t know how to explain that I lied because I’m a coward who can’t handle social situations. She’s going to hate me and probably tell everyone what I did.
Should I confess or just hope she doesn’t see the post? I’m spiraling here.
TL;DR: Faked being sick to skip a friend’s wedding, then got caught on social media at a bar the same night, now waiting for the fallout.
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Honesty is the best policy, but next time, don’t get tagged at the pub. Lesson learnt.
Well, you can say the food poisoning get better in the evening…
“I felt bad but also relieved”
You didn’t feel that bad if you went out the same night. If I were the friend, I’d find it rather difficult to forgive whether I saw the photo or you confessed, just consider the friendship over.
ETA – and if you do confess, don’t use the excuse you can’t handle social situations because you were photographed out at a bar 😂
I personally think you should have either just been honest or not go to the pub.
If you didn’t want to go to her wedding, she clearly isn’t a friend you value. Maybe her seeing the post is the best thing for you both so you can move on and find new friends.
there is definitely more to the story here
you were broke from the bachelor party , but what this has to do with the wedding ? you dont have to pay anything for the wedding, and if it you had, those (eg room at hotel, etc) would have been organised and paid long ago.
Then you say you have anxiety on weddings and cant handle socializing , but you are fine going out at bars, so that card does not play well.
Plus you could just go to the wedding and bail afterwards .
If you are close friends etc , that could be a friendship over kind of thing since not only you lied about one of the most important moments of your friend , but that friend probably knows if you can or not “handle social situations”, so if you were straight up from the beginning there would be no issue.
OP said he told Sarah he was sick “Friday” and the wedding was “yesterday,” Thursday, but the excuse he chose was food poisoning, which is usually gone in a day or two.
His reasons for missing the wedding were originally that weddings stress him out, Sarah’s been a bridezilla, and cost. Later, it’s morphed to social anxiety.
OP’s account is young with an Adjective_NounNumbers name and zero comments.
I’m not buying it.