We’re at a family party celebrating grandads birthday, people eating and chatting and playing games in every room of the house. I was pretty excited to be there as I love his family’s humor and they were all very welcoming to me. Except his mom.
Frankly, the moms in my life never loved me anyways as I am a bit of a delinquent, so I just did my best to stay polite around her. Unfortunately, my house manners are pretty rough around the edges despite my efforts.
I finished my food and took my paper plate into the kitchen where boyfriend’s mom and aunts were chatting, but I couldn’t find the trash can. The conversation goes like this:
Me- Does anyone know where the trash can is?
Mom- the what?
Me- the trash can?
Mom- the what?
Me- …the trash can?
Mom- umm…
Me- say it with me slowly, traaasssshh caaannnnnnn
Her face goes so dark before reminding me she’s partially fucking deaf and I fucking forgot. I thought I was just making a silly joke about a misunderstanding
The aunts around her open mouth GASPED when I pulled such an attitude and I could see them hiding their laughs as mom was clearly not amused. Jaws on the floor all around.
Once I realized what I did, I too gasped and apologized VERY profusely before skittering out of the room like a roach under a lamp. She took it very hard.
I ended up finding a random room in the house to go cry in because I was so fucking embarrassed. her husband came in later to tell me while it was incredibly rude of me, she’s definitely taking it personally because of her preexisting feelings towards me and everyone else thought it was kinda funny.
Some were trying to make me feel better about the situation, and I agree that a grown adult shouldn’t feel so offended by the word vomit of a teenager, especially when it was clearly a genuine mistake. But ultimately I think it was an important lesson doled out before I made a real ass of myself as an adult. THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. EVEN WHEN YOURE JUST TRYING TO BE FUNNY.
This actually happened like a decade ago but someone posted a similar story and it reminded me of my time living with a foot for a tongue as a teenager lol.
TLDR: forgot that I was talking to someone who is partially deaf and made fun of her for not hearing me
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delinquent? pre-existing feelings? what have you done in the past? lmao
So a decade ago, are you still with the same man? If so has the relationship with his mother improved or deteriorated further over the years?
I literally just finished reading the post I know you thought of this because of. And I love that you made a post about it in turn.
This is a great f up and a pretty funny story. I hope things are going better now in your relationships at least in terms of moms lmao
Even if you thought it was just a misunderstanding it was still a really rude thing to say, these aren’t your mates to banter with, you need to be thoughtful when talking to the in-laws.
I must be the only one that thinks the mom responding with multiple “the what?” without asking the speaker to be louder is more rude than what you did. That was an adult purposely being difficult to a child. My grandma knows to remind people to speak at “her good ear” when she can’t hear properly at the first go. She tripped you up twice to waste everyone’s time.
It’s not the first day where she lived her life as hard of hearing; I find it hard to believe that she doesn’t know how to specify for you to be louder or remind you she’s deaf.
Most people like you would have repeated yourself multiple times (likely in the same volume), I’m not buying the innocence of the mom at all, she totally deserved the snark imo.
It’s also possible some of the aunts laughed because she was pretending not to hear you and thought she could get away with it because she’d assumed you’d remember. It’s also telling to me that no one else helped you either. I’m sure someone in that gaggle knew what you were looking for and stood back saying nothing.
I have partial hearing loss in one ear, so if I’m just not getting what someone is saying I’ll incline my better ear to the direction of their voice.
I don’t think you fucked up, you were in a creepy situation and no one was going to bat for you.
ETA: crappy, not creepy
Why the frick does her stupid husband have anything to do with it.
A long time ago there was a show called Leave it to Beaver, take a look for it on YouTube and focus on the character Eddie Haskell. That’s how you should work the family.
Well I’m glad you’ve grown up and learned it to do better
Yeah, that was pretty rude.
You sound like an asshole and a loser. If someone came into my home and spoke to me like that, they would never be allowed back.
Something is broken in our society that this sort of behavior has been normalized.