Last weekend, I (25M) ended up going out with an older coworker (34F) to a bar, we were chatting it up, everything was great. She was nice enough to let me crash at her place instead of driving home, which I thought was super sweet. We get to her house, I asked if I just make a bed on the floor or on the couch, she said no that I would sleep with her in the bed, I thought oh okay sure. Not gonna argue, its her house. As I go inside her room, I check my phone for one singular second, and now she’s changed from her work clothes to pajamas (shirt and shorts nothing crazy), asked if I needed to give her the room, she said nah its fine, so I figured she’s just super comfortable around me. We then sit on her bed, drinking and smoking a lil, then she puts on a movie on her phone and we were listening to it, then we went to bed. No big deal right? Then the next morning everything seemed fine, I drove her to work and we also grabbed mcdonalds, wished her a good shift, then drove home and changed and went back to work. Fast forward to tonight, I tell a confidant of mine at work about the ordeal, they flipped the fuck out when I said no after they asked if we had sex. She said she put all the signals in my lap and yet I still didn’t read the room. The more I thought about it, the more now fucking embarrassed that I am that I was SO OBLIVIOUS to all the signs. Im now balled up in a corner about to get higher than giraffe pussy so I can try to forget this whole embarrassing ordeal. Im now literally at the mercy of when I see her again, god only knows when due to the schedule being iffy. I don’t have any of her socials, no phone number, nothing. I could literally die rn.
TL;DR I ended up going home with a coworker and didn’t read any of her advances of trying to fuck and now Imma die of embarrassment.
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Aah yes that story which will make you cringe for ages to come
“A Canon event”
It’s fine bro, if she was down just the other day, she would more than likely still want to sleep with you if you made some advances in the coming days. The only thing that may change her mind is that you’re coworkers and it’s typically not a great idea to sleep with somebody you see at work every day, she may have decided that it was a “bullet dodged” and you missed your shot. Maybe not though, you would have to pursue further to find out
I mean, it doesn’t really seem like you fucked up yet to me? Like you could just say you had a lot of fun and ask her to hang out again next time you meet.
If I had a dollar for every time I was too oblivious to notice blatant flirting (and more), I would have, I dunno, at least enough for lunch from the full price menu at Taco Bell.
Yeah, she was willing and ready. You probably crushed her ego by not even acknowledging the situation. If this was a 22 year old baddie, you would have been trying hard, she literally told you to sleep with her and you were oblivious to her sexuality. Not only did you blow it, you probably won’t (and shouldn’t) get another chance. There’s like 10 dudes she sees everyday that want to hit it, but you were blind to her advances. I’m mad at you for her.
Edit: Oo my comment is initially and viscerally unpopular on reddit….land of the incels, lol.
it’s fine just think with your dick next time
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Did she look like Gillian Anderson or Danny Devito?
I was standing behind a hot older woman at the grocery store checkout the other day and the checker was a bit confused as to who’s groceries were hers and mine and asked if we were together. The smoking hot woman looked me dead in the eye and said “not yet”. Like three days later it dawned on me 🤦
Slow play is not a fuck up you nonce.
Man, I am split on this one.
Sure, you missed a bunch of signs.
But also dude, you’re playing with fire dipping your pen in company ink. You better be absolutely sure she’s far away from you on the org chart. And maybe also get verbal consent.
If you want… you can do the “nudge” thing. A friend of mine did that to me when we were in bed together and it’s kinda like, *slight nudge to get your attention* “hey…….”
Like, if that helps for next time. It also doesn’t have to be in bed.
It’s hella weird though, when you aren’t actively chasing sex or the one who is thinking about it, it’s almost as if it’s never on the table or even in the same room. Really bizarre stuff. As if you’re surrounded by food and thinking, “what should I do right now?”
It’s really no big deal. Maybe she didn’t want to fuck and just wanted to cuddle and maybe make out? Or maybe she just wanted to watch the movie and sleep like you guys did.
The bigger TIFU is posting something like this on a public website. People don’t like being talked about behind their back.
She might not have been into. Maybe she’s just really polite and Canadian.
Can you share the prompt that gave this output?
https://i.redd.it/fapuctcu6jve1.gif
In high school, I had a guy (MY CRUSH) give me his senior photo — wallet sized, of him wearing leopard print underwear on a couch…George Costanza-esque— with his number on the back. Did I get the hint to call him? No.
Men were blessed with two heads, but only enough blood to run one at a time. It looks like your reasonable head prevailed. Workplace flings can get upside down in a hurry, and you might be out of a job.
Don’t feel so bad. This happened to me twice before I finally became a man. Now I’m a straight up perv if a woman gets into bed with me. Live and learn.
Friday is coming up tomorrow. Just ask her if she wants to get dinner on you. If she expresses any disappointment or confusion just say you want to get to know her better and go with the flow. You figured out the problem soon enough that this is still totally fixable so long as you retry it with a little bit of polish and diplomacy.
IF A GIRL INVITES YOU TO HER BED, ITS TIME!!! come on!!! but thats if you wanted to do it… this happened to me a long time ago i went to visit some friends (had a crush on one) but was hanging out with another most of the day, they threw a party at their place, once every leaves i was like ok ill crash on the couch, girl goes you can sleep on my bed(a twin, college times) i ask where she gonna sleep? she says my bed.. and im like oOoOOo , we didnt have sex , there were 2 other girls sleeping the same room.. but we made out, eventually we did hook up but yeah lol one of the other girls sleeping in the same room was the one i had a crush on too though, and she heard so my chances with her turned basically to 0
I’ll be the optimist man, I didn’t pick up the hint for 4 YEARS, now we’ve been married for 6 and have the coolest kid.
You still have a chance. I had a moment like this where I met a girl at a random campsite on the way home from the mountains. We were in the public pool all alone and getting close and as we get out she says how it would be cool to shower together. I just strolled right into the boys change room without blinking an eye. As we got in the vehicle to load up for home the next day it dawned on me. Brutal ride home thinking about it hahah
Never screw the crew…
Could’ve been worse honestly.
If you want to
fuckhave sex just say so. Like most guys who end up at your place are gonna say no 👍Dude, you’re lucky you had the confidant to tell you the deal because that spares you the shock of suddenly realizing it a decade from now.
For a long time, I just thought women were really bad at remembering to bring a towel with them when they showered.
Similar situation when out of town for work. She stayed with me at the hotel because she had a few drinks and safer than driving. I said I would be a gentleman and not make her uncomfortable in any way. I didn’t realize she had packed an overnight bag with her.
We’ve now been married 14 years.
Dw man, it happens, when I was 20, I was working in a restaurant and at end of shift it was just me, my hot and a bit older coworker, and the owner – who wasn’t in the room, my coworker was having a glass of wine and literally said to me ‘wine makes me so horny’ and I still didn’t twig and laughed it off and just kept going about cleaning up.
My late teens and early 20s are littered with these type of incidents, so dont be like me and just learn from it.