So, I had been bored this entire week so today I decided to be productive. After office, I went for a swim and later in the night my friends (not as close, new friends Ive met a few months ago) called up for a chill session at home.
I invited them over. They came at 11PM, its 2AM, I am so tired and want to sleep. But my friends are talking and chilling. I don’t want to be the party pooper😭 but my social battery is in negative. Its the fatigue. But its also 2AM and a weekday! I feel so stupid because I have gone non verbal at this point because of my tiredness.
I am not very close to them and cant be confrontational. I am going to suck it up and continue being a good host.
TLDR; called friends over. Had no social battery. They are talking while I am typing this post.
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Wow, I can totally relate to this! Overestimating your social battery is the worst, you start feeling drained and just want to go home and recharge. We’ve all been there, don’t beat yourself up! Better luck next time, and don’t forget to schedule some self-care time afterwards.
> I .. dont want to be non-confrontational
Oh yes, you’re tired.
Go in the bathroom and pretend to throw up loudly
Call the cops on yourself. Problem solved.
“oh my God, y’all! It’s 2am?? I’ve got work in the morning. Thanks for coming over, but I gotta get some sleep!”
Just make sure to slap your thighs as you’re standing up.
You just say you have to work in the morning and if they’re really your friends, they’ll completely understand. And for future reference, I don’t know how old you are but starting a hangout at 11pm during the week should be a nonstarter if you work a normal full time schedule.
Jesus OP. It’s not being confrontational to mention the time and say you have work tomorrow so you need to cut things short. That’s not being a party pooper either.
And next time don’t invite people over at 11pm on a weekday I mean genuinely what did you think was gonna happen?
Aw man, I’ve been there too! It’s so easy to overestimate our social energy levels, especially when we’re really excited to see people. But don’t be too hard on yourself, these things happen. The important thing is you learned from it and can plan better next time.
“Y’all don’t got work tomorrow ?”
Be nice and friendly. Just remind them that you have work or XYZ in less than 8 hours.
What time did you invite them? If you invited them for 11 pm knowing you had work the next day, then I’m a little surprised you’d be miffed they are still there at 2 am.
I totally feel you on that one! It’s so easy to overestimate how much social interaction we can handle. I hope you were able to recharge and take some time for yourself after that long day. We’ve all been there!
I mean you invited them.over at 11pm. That’s not something I would do at all ever if I wanted sleep lol
In this situation I would normally follow the teachings of wise Spike from The Land Before Time, and bury my head in the dirt hoping for the problem to go away.
Use your words.
girl this is the most polite form of suffering i’ve ever read 😭 you invited the vibes and now the vibes won’t leave. next time just say “i’m turning into a pumpkin at midnight” and dip in your own house