Hi guys! A while back I (25M) posted about how I took this girl from work (34F) to the bar with me and she invited me back to her house and both slept in her bed, but didn’t end in sex because I couldn’t read the signals she was putting out there. This is an update.
So about a week afterwards, I finally ask her if I missed something she was putting out there, she said “no I just didn’t feel like figuring out an alternative sleeping arrangement” and left it at that. Figured “okay that’s fine”, the woman and I both are very weird, Im pretty sure Im undiagnosed autistic personally, so I left the subject alone going forward. Fast forward to last weekend, she texts me asking if I wanna go to the bar again, I say yes, she even asked me to pick her up this time from her house. Made jokes to myself like “the gods are giving me another chance”, but really, I was just excited about drinking. Got to her house, she said I can wait in her room while she showered, then came in only wearing a bra and pants, told me to turn around and changed in the same room as me AGAIN. After she got ready, we went out, had a great time at the bar, even closed down the bar this time, then stayed the night at her house. She then had the idea of “let’s play dirty charades till 6am” and we did, had a blast, didn’t advance on her or get naked or anything dirty keep in mind. Then we laid down in bed and went to sleep again. I think I may’ve laid my arm on her while we were both asleep, but it got shrugged off after a while. Then we woke up at about 2PM, she walked me out, said it was fun and we gotta do it again, then that she’d see me at work and closed the door.
Idek what I’m doing atp, this is the SECOND TIME we slept together but didn’t “sleep” together. My friends tell me that she’s lying about her motives and I shoulda made the jump and kissed her, but that’s honestly a scary fuckin jump to make and what if Im wrong about all this and she decides to punch me in the face and accuse me of some heinous shit if I take that chance. I think I’m just gonna give up, ngl. Im not an initiator. I’ve never been an initiator. All of my actions regarding dating and sex and going out have only been because women would approach me and I’d just do whatever they want me to do. Idk. This shit is so confusing. I wish I can just ask her if she was tryna get weinered down and her give me a direct yes or no instead of throwing all these signs and then saying things differently. Or Im wrong about it all once again.
TL;DR Slept in the same bed as my coworker twice now and neither of which ended in sex because Im too scared to make a move or too stupid to see the signs.
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Bruh just make a fucking move 😭 she thinks you don’t want her
She told you when asked that there is nothing else going on. I know all the signs are there that she’s into you, but you asked and got a direct answer. I would just leave it at that until she directly tells you otherwise.
Bro, I dunno how else to say it…. she wants you to get your dick wet.