TIFU by thinking my boyfriend was cheating on me… with men.

r/

So, I went over to my boyfriend’s place. He was hanging out and chatting with his roommates in the living room, so I went straight to his bedroom to chill while I waited. For context, I don’t currently have a phone, so when I’m at his place I usually use his to scroll or watch something.

His phone was lying on the bed, unlocked, so I grabbed it to put something on. That’s when I saw some pictures of naked men. At first, I thought, “Oh, he watches gay porn? That’s new, but okay, no judgment.”

But then I noticed green message bubbles on every photo, that’s when I realized it wasn’t porn, it was a dating app for gay men, my heart sank, There were so many conversations. One of them was him telling some guy how much he enjoyed what they did last time and asking when he could come over again.

I didn’t want to confront him in front of his roommates, I just wanted to leave. So I closed the app and went to open InDrive (a taxi app, like Uber), but then I saw the home screen.

It wasn’t my boyfriend’s home screen.

It wasn’t even his phone.

Turns out, it was one of his roommates’ phones. They must’ve left it in his room to charge, using my boyfriend’s charger. I had picked it up without even thinking twice.

So yeah, I almost had a full-on emotional meltdown and ran out on my boyfriend over a phone that wasn’t even his.

TL;DR: Thought my boyfriend was secretly cheating on me with men after seeing gay dating app messages on what I thought was his phone… turns out it was his roommate’s

Comments

  1. RarScaryFrosty Avatar

    Your boyfriend’s not gay, but his boyfriend definitely is. /s

  2. changelingcd Avatar

    You should tell him what happened and laugh together (unless he was one of the men the roommate was chatting with).

  3. parkhurstcards Avatar

    Some people prefer the company of men…

  4. DirtyWriterDPP Avatar

    Who are these people with no security on their phone!?!? I have my work email on mine so it forces me to but I would anyway.

  5. karmichoax Avatar

    You found his burner

  6. MattGraverSAIC Avatar

    Reddit is full of emotionally immature and unstable people in relationships. If I had a dollar for everyone of these I’ve seen I’d be a $30k millionaire.

  7. b0rk0ff Avatar

    “I don’t currently have a phone” in the year 2025.

  8. Ok_Satisfaction_4013 Avatar

    I feel like this is an ad for “indrive”

  9. zugtug Avatar

    So is his roommate openly gay or was that a surprise too?

  10. Cheese-Manipulator Avatar

    Folks, add a pin or fingerprint lock to your phone and lock it before putting it down.

  11. nottz995 Avatar

    If he’s cheating you’re doing something wrong

  12. KingPlubs Avatar

    Women emotional to everything immediately not even bothering to check if it’s the right phone smh no rational

  13. Curben Avatar

    Okay considering this turned out to not be a bad thing, it’s kind of hilarious

  14. websitedev3663 Avatar

    This story has too many holes.

  15. AggressiveCoast190 Avatar

    If true. Biggest red flag is your boyfriend’s roommate doesn’t have a charger or power in their room or a common area. Sooooo.

  16. i_m_not_special Avatar

    Whew, that was a close call, thank God you didn’t figure out that it was his burner phone.

  17. JohnWick-2018 Avatar

    And that’s why people shouldn’t snoop