I was browsing on a shitty online store(we all know the store with low prices and low quality stuff) a few months ago and saw this three hole rubber/silicone fleshlight thing and I thought Hey that’s something I should try, keep in mind I’m a grown man in my 30s but I’ve only ever masturbated with my hand or sex or whatever else with women, never owned a sextoy, never really crossed my mind because it was always so expensive and I used to think it’s cringe to buy a fake pussy. Long story short, I bought it, tried it, it was amazing but then I had some family come for a visit and I was terrified they’d somehow find it so I threw it out a few days before they arrived, they left last week and now I can’t reach orgasm with my hands especially my right hand anymore and it’s so freaking weird, I’ve been using this same right hand for 30+years and now it suddenly doesn’t feel good? I managed to use my left hand and ejaculated yesterday but it felt terrible, didn’t have the same relief or cessation of horniness that usually comes with ejaculation and now I’m searching online for another fleshlight. Is this how people get addicted to sextoys? Once they do it for you it’s hard to go back to the same old righty??? I know it’s ridiculous but I haven’t been this frustrated since early teenage years.
TL DR I tried a fleshlight and now I can’t ejaculate while wanking with my hands anymore.
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Be careful with cheap sextoys. Some are made of a shitty porous material that is very hard (if not impossible) to clean
I bought one from Walmart a few years ago. I was so embarrassed though. Not because I bought one. No I was embarrassed because I ran in to my brother outside and the bags are kinda see through. I don’t think he figured out what it was, but I was terrified.
I still have it and I use it occasionally. You’re right it does feel really good but I save that for when I need a really good orgasm.
Sorry your hands not working for you anymore.
You should try nutting directly onto your palm and flinging it back onto your face. The excitement might bring you back into the niche of masturbating again
I love the feel of toys but don’t like the cleanup afterwards each time. Also my hand did the job for so long it’s its own sensation now. I’m sorry you’re experience a blockage of some sort. Maybe there’s other things from when you used just your hand that you can incorporate while masturbating? To help bring back some familiarity.
family come for a visit and I was terrified they’d somehow find it so I threw it out 😅
What about “The Stranger”?
It doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t reach it with your hand anymore, after all it’s something new, and because it was pleasant, of course the body wants more lol.
Take your time, find other techniques, get another toy, nothing wrong with enjoying yourself man.
Is it too late to dig through the trash?
Detox from masturbating for a month, then it will be like a new beginning.
You need to lay off using that thing because all it’s doing is desensitizing you it’s your hands now but just wait till you have a woman in your bed and you can’t put your best foot forward
you were on temu weren’t you….
I used one for a while and felt the same way, but I eventually had no problem using my hand again lol. You’ll get used to it.
I’ve never used one, but try going back to basics. A lot of men never really get to know their genitals properly. They tug at it with a closed palm like they are trying to pull the thing off until they achieve the fastest orgasm possible.
>!Take your time with yourself, explore using just finger tips, and understand what the most sensitive parts are and how they like to be manipulated. Not just your genitals but tease the whole area around them, tickle and tease other parts of your body, you may be surpised to find you have other eroginous zones. Also learn how to draw out your pleasure instead of chasing the fastest release possible.!<
Its a myth that women are more complex than men. Men might be able to ejaculate quickly, but when you’ve learnt to masturbate properly, you’ll understand the difference between ejaculations and an orgasm that involves your whole body.
The only warning is that once you understand how complex your own body can be, it’s hard to be satisfied with a lazy partner thereafter.
So don’t buy the super-cheap ones because you’re going to fuck yourself up with chemicals. My advice would be hop online, go buy a half-dozen TENGA eggs right from the store – they’re doing a 20th anniversary giveaway right now, you could get 6 and a gift for like 35 bucks – and then you’ve got a toy that’s properly *designed* to be thrown out when you’re done with it. They are washable – you can just flip them inside out – and they’re designed to be semi-disposable, plus they’re a lot smaller than a proper stroker and if you pull the labels off no one will know what they are. Or your store probably has them, they’re usually like 5-10 bucks.
And relax – it’ll be fine. Once the novelty wears off a bit, you’ll be able to get off however you please.
Wait.. you’re in your 30s and you’ve used that hand for 30+ years? 🤔
Sometimes it’s also better to lay off porn for a couple days man 🙂
Listen, there are fleece blankets from Walmart that cost about $10-15 that are better than any fleshlight IMO.
Wrap it around your junk and go to town. It can also be used as a cumrag so you don’t have to clean it everyday like you do after using a fleshlight.
Was it Harbor Freight?
Just take a month off. I bet your hand will work again.
This is my biggest fear with any of these toys: the materials.
Thats weird, ive had the opposite experience. Ive trued with 2 and both felt mediocre at best with the added bonus of ripping open my foreskin.
If theres no access to a female good old hand it is.
As a connoisseur of this world, I won’t lie but I cum way more and harder with toys. I’ve tried the auto strokers, sucking ones and others but honestly those automatic ones are for below avg ppl(4″). I’m not above avg by any stretch of the imagination but they stop working when they bottom out. They make better ones but were talking $300-400. No thx.
I bought a metal filing cabinet to hide my toys and so far it’s worked. I wish it could lock though.
As far as getting addicted, again I can cum without toys but I take forever. The best thing here is to distract yourself for weeks, then touch yourself. I am not alone so those toys are noisy from lube so I have to take what I get. You may need to see a therapist which will just tell you abstinence is the cure ..
Maybe not what you wanna hear but lay off pulling yer pud for a while. Few days. Week. Should be right as rain after a little “tolerance break” if you will
This can happen with real partners, too. Let’s say you use a GI Joe kung-fu grip when you enjoy your stroganoff. Well, unless the woman has an absolutely unnatural control over her “grip strength” you are going to feel as if it’s a hot dog in a hallway and not be able to finish your task.
A tolerance break will solve you right up dude.
Source: guilty as charged.
Look on Amazon
Just order a new pocker pu**y 😎
Get a japanese one, otonajp got you covered. Dont go for a “hard” one and in my opinion the best ones are in the 25-50$ range. Any less expensive is just too small, more expensive just adds unwanted weight.
“Taciturn” is the hole that sold me on these things, after having miserable experiments with EU and US holes. Havent run into your problem though, I think youre just excited and need to get another one to get over this.
Weird to post your fetish disguised as a story but ok
Huh, I was thinking using a toy like a fleshlight instead of your hand would be a good way to avoid getting Death Grip Syndrome… I didn’t consider that the toy could be so good that it would end up causing the same problem!
Um.. the vegi bags at wally world make great liners for your toys.
Respectfully, this might be a sign to detox for a while. Try to break the habit a bit.
See if you can go a month without it (and avoid any porn), just to check if you still have everything in hand (pun intended).
lol sounds like you spoiled yourself too fast, guess once you level up it’s hard to downgrade, you gonna buy a new one or try to “retrain” your hand?
Give it a rest for a month and then try the old standby again. You should be fine.
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I’m ngl, this sounds like a mental blockage. Often times people who are judgmental about sex or at the very least think sex is inherently gross will receive a blockage when they find a kink or fetish they’re interested it. They put sex as something that should be shunned or outright be considered a necessary evil and when it starts to be enjoyed you might feel enough guilt that you can ejaculate. I’d recommend either seeing a sexual therapist if it’s concerning enough but maybe some mental work and/or personal exploration might help you “get back on your feet”
Lmao, sounds like you unlocked a new level you can’t go back from.
You’ve unlocked another type of orgasm. Fun, isn’t it? I wouldn’t say it’s an addiction, but you found a sensation and your body wants more. From a woman’s perspective, this can happen when relying on clitoral vibration to reach orgasm. It’s quick, easy, and disconnected.
Try one of your local sex stores for a new better quality flashlight. Like others have said maybe use it on occasion but not everytime. Lube may help with the masturbation with your hand to get that sensation back.
Just spit on that thang.
I’ve bounced between toys and my hand for most of my life. The trick that worked for me is to mix it up from time to time and try not to use them to get a quick one out every time. Also even though it’s a toy, use lube.
In terms of the toys themselves, find a place to hide them when they’re not in use. Those clean, sterilize, and dry before storing them — there are actually kits to assist with this. For a while I stored my winter clothes in some luggage, so opted to store my few toys in there. Another option I used was storing the toys in a box that some computer stuff came in and put that box in a drawer in my desk with a few other random boxes. When I got some slightly larger toys, I’d dry them thoroughly, put them in a sealed bag, put that bag in a box and place the box in the attic.
Lastly, aim to get quality toys from reputable dealers/sellers. So many cheap and low cost toys are too porous, have heavy carcinogenics, or other questionable things going on. And after washing them for your first use, stick a finger into them and feel around before you stick your willy into them.
Take a jackoff break and let your dick get some sensitivity back
I don’t believe you’ve ever had sex with a human person.
I’ve never tried it, but I heard of someone buying a grapefruit and cutting a hole through the middle of it. Definitely full of moisture!
I threw mine away and I think of her everyday. RIP sailor moon
I’ll just leave this here.
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Just get another one..
Try a nitrile glove on your hand. May be closer to the sensation of a toy without completely leaving your hands out.
What happens when you with a woman and you cannot finish that way either? 👀
Idk how often you worked your pickle, but just give em a few days, maybe use some lube while jerking it, that does wonders also
I had the same issue so I cut off my right hand and had a prosthetic installed. Problem solved and family visits don’t cause me anxiety.
How many times a day were you using it? Lol
Set a personal goal and take a break from that shit for a few weeks and you’ll be as good as new.
Have you considered a rubber glove?
Skill issue
There are many benefits to being able to read English, this post however is not one of them.
Post history confirms the porn addiction
I mean my mouth is always available and it’s warm. Also, why didn’t you hide the toy instead of throwing it away?
Give it two weeks. Sometimes your dong needs a reset