I wanted to let my MIL know that my wife is burnt out and can’t live up to her expectations right now because she’s struggling to even get out of bed without psych meds. But I ended up making it sound like she doesn’t know her daughter and then things really escalated going there ending up with me and her saying mean things to each other and now our small family is in a big mess where all 3 of us have been crying for hours from the hurt caused and there have been talks where we’re all feeling that we’re not worth living, depressed and my MIL feels unwanted.
We’ve done everything to try and convince mum that we want her in our life. But she’s hurt and we’re both feeling terrible. We can barely breath…
I guess that’s just truth off my chest. Ba dum tss.
TL;DR – Good intention of helping my wife caused my MIL getting offended because of my miscommunication.
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Tough situation. Intentions were good, emotions ran high a little space and gentle words can help heal.
So you were talking about your wife issues and it ended up being all about MIL? DARVO?
Can you clarify? Sounds like your wife is struggling to meet MIL’s expectations? If she’s part of the problem you should stand by your wife. MIL needs to work on the relationship with her daughter. Therapy will probably help everyone involved.
MIL is Narc and making it about herself. And in the fallout she’s getting attention instead of giving her daughter a break.