So, I (24M) had this huge crush on this girl from my work (22F). She’s smart, funny, and pretty much everything I could ever want. We’d chatted a bit here and there, and I thought I had a chance, so I decided to go for it. There was a work event, and I figured it was the perfect time to finally ask her out, maybe show her how cool I could be.
Now, here’s where I messed up: I’ve been learning how to play the guitar. I thought it would be an amazing idea to impress her by playing a song at the event. I’ve only been playing for a couple of months, and to be honest, I’m not very good yet. But I convinced myself it would work out, and I picked a love song to make it even more romantic.
The moment came, and I got up in front of everyone, guitar in hand. The first few chords went okay, but then my hands started shaking. I completely messed up the song, the chords were wrong, and I ended up making a fool of myself. The worst part? She was there, right in the front, and saw the whole thing. I could tell she was trying to be polite, but I could see in her eyes that it wasn’t exactly impressing her. I ended up just awkwardly walking off stage, and the whole event was incredibly uncomfortable after that.
TL;DR: Tried to impress my crush by playing a love song on guitar at a work event, but completely messed it up and made a fool of myself in front of her and everyone else.
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Maybe this is the reason she cried and got naked with that other guy.
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Dude take advantage of the awkward performance, inject some self-deprecating humor and ask her out.
““You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” Wayne Gretzky. – Michael Scott”
Rookie mistake. Should have played Womderwall
Please tell me you tried to play “Lovefool” by The Cardigans
” I’ve been learning how to play the guitar. I thought it would be an amazing idea to impress her by playing a song at the event.”
Okay high school musical, you’re 24. You should have known that this was not a good idea.
Contrary to popular belief, knowing how to play the guitar doesn’t make women fall in love with you. It’s impressive, but it’s not everything. And this is coming from someone who loves going to concerts and local shows and has been interested in guys in bands. So she either already liked you before or didn’t. And if she did, playing it badly probably didn’t mess things up.
AI writing lmao
Just tell her you saw her in the front row, was stunned by her and forgot all the chords.
I used to perform Solo guitar, and one thing that I remember one of my favorite teachers/mentors say was. After practicing a song 100 times, try to remember the worst 1 you did. Your performance will be worse than that.
You need to nail a song over and over through many many days, before you can play it reasonably well on stage.
There will be 1000s of other/better women out there but good for you for trying something completely challenging and unthinkable for 99.9% of the world. What you did take a ton of courage and if she doesn’t see you for that, then you wouldn’t want to date her anyways.
You cant see me right now, but I’m giving you a standing ovation, my guy!
You did great man.
You proved in front of the whole room (including her) that you have the courage to do difficult things while people are watching!
No guts no glory my dude.
Next step is keep playing guitar and singing and keep chatting her up. Your ability in this is not key, You are the key. Sure if you are better its more better sounding but you did a very romantic thing there and *tried* where so many other people just stand their with their thumbs in their ass.
its the *gesture* more then how it came off that a romantic would respond to. You did good. Love can be awkward and scary but You haven’t fucked anything up and moreover to my eyes it looks like you actually made a step forward. You were nice, you didn’t do anything mean or questionable and its kinda cute and funny, she inspired you to make a fool of yourself man. If that aint a compliment i fucking don’t know what is. She inspired you to go into fucking BATTLE to prove your love to her!!! That’s some Scott Pilgrim shit there my man.
Also re: clearly not looking impressive in her eyes— Literally all you need to do is when you see her at this point crack a big smile and laugh and she’s gonna do the exactly the same thing back. You are comedic musician now please tell me where it says most women do not want somebody with a sense of humor cuz laughing is bad??? Just like point that out to me where it says that please.
If she takes the bait do you have any idea how romantic a meeting story that is? in ten years when u rock on the guitar and she’s the mother of your child? come onnnnn man.. just be friendly laugh and smile. Part of being a performer a leader or a public figure is the ability to shake off that stuff and do it again.
Your ability to laugh about this, and to encourage and allow others to also laugh about this opens up opportunities for you to try playing that same crowd again in a month or two when you are ready and it will also allow you to probably feel a little less of the insane performance pressure i expect you were experiencing there. If you approach it this way it means people will smile when they see you coming on instinct.
I will also give you a small piece of advice about musicians, to learn to do what you are trying to do you need to learn to fail at something and keep trying. How do you learn a song but to fail at it until you don’t. If you lack that perseverance you will lack the skill of musicianship.
if she’s worth being with somebody as awesome sounding and brave as you are then I’ll bet you she wants you to go chat to her some more and to encourage you to keep playing and maybe she would even want to hear you play when you’re a little more comfortable and a little less on the spot.. say in the park… at a picnic…. for two… at the lake … at sunset………
And hey if she doesn’t then that’s what laughing is for and smiling and then sure enough within time there will be somebody else who smiles and laughs when you approach but the answer and response will be more inviting.
You sound pretty awesome so I’d wish for your partner to be able to recognize that and encourage you to succeed. Keep being awesome.
Soooo you’re 24M, bought your first piece of land in Oregon (despite admitting to living below your means in another post), had a girlfriend 30 days ago who said she didn’t love you anymore (posted on an Indian subreddit) and would like to know what the best handbag is to keep your essentials without feeling overburdened.
Something doesn’t add up.
Holy shit. I hope someone recorded this and will post it later. This is top tier cringe.
Honestly be honest dawg. Men forgot about romance and girls definitely love it. She would definitely appreciate knowing you put in effort to try to impress her. But also be respectful of her wishes too, she might just not be attracted to you and that’s okay. She has free will and she can like whoever she wants.
The silver lining might be that she sees you as an outgoing and carefree person. Play the embarrassment off just right and you may still win.