So she had called her Mom, we spend the day at Valley Forge Park, took a tour with her Mom and Step Dad as well as me and our 2 children.
Planned to go out to eat, but her step dad wasn’t hungry at 3ish when we were done at VF.
Came home she went outside to read her book.
I went to Costco with her car, filled up her tank, picked up some steaks and other food for dinner. Did the dishes, took laundry upstairs, sorted it. Gave my daughter a bath, (had surgery on her arm, can’t use it)
After dinner, and her helping my son with homework, she asked if she could go to bed…. Implying that if I had anything else to do today.
I said nothing planned, I’ll be up in a bit.
As soon as I came into the room, I knew she was upset. I asked her how she was, she was bite by a dog yesterday breaking up 2dogs fighting.
She said, my arm hurts, my heart hurts.
I replied, I’m sorry, can I do anything?
She replied the least you could have done today was a f…ing card.
I suck at gifts. I never feel like I get the right stuff. I have always had a hard time with empathy of others, I never remember things until they are due, or staring me in the face. In the past I took all of us to a family painting with a twist, but I felt like she didn’t like it.
I don’t know how to make this better.
Tomorrow, I am going to write a heartfelt apology, see if I can find a card (yeah might be too little too late). Any other ideas?
TL;DR. I didn’t do my plan, did what her mom wanted, now my wife is pissed
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get the card, apologize, maybe some flowers. and most importantly, be better next time. there is no shame in asking what she wants if you aren’t sure, but also maybe write down things she wants / appreciates? make her feel special and important
YFU but you have a chance of making things better and it sounds like you had a full plate.
Can you pick her up a card, something wonderful to eat for breakfast, if she likes flowers get her that and surprise her with all of that stuff?
Good luck.