Today I Fucked Up by getting excited for a first date… and then crushing a guy’s soul.
So I matched with this guy and we really hit it off over DM. Shooting the shit, shared interests, and he even used proper punctuation! I was actually excited for the date, which is rare because dating usually feels like a second unpaid job.
We meet up… and the vibe is just off. He was nice, polite, but the energy is low. Like “just woke up from a coma and still groggy” low. I tried to carry the convo, was light hearted, had hmlour, asked questions, and even asked my “tell me something I don’t know”. Nothing. Just chill, quiet, and probably even confused.
I kept thinking maybe he was nervous. Half way through the date in realized the awful truth – I’m not feeling it. So instead of giving short answers or making up an excuse, I decided to be honest with him.
I said, “I think you’re cool, but I’m not really feeling a connection. I think our energies just don’t match.”
He replies, “Wow. That’s kind of harsh.”
Suddenly, I was wondering if I’m the asshole and start feeling guilty. I apologized and tried to explain but I realized I hit a nerve. He looked so upset. He ended the date. I was left standing wondering what just happened.
Moral of the story: Honesty is important, but apparently so is timing and delivery. Next time, I think I’m going to go back to vague answers and moving things along at a crawl pace
TL;DR: rejection