I’ve always thought having people over would be chill, just a few drinks, some music, nothing crazy. I invited a few of my friends from work and told them they could bring a couple plus-ones. It snowballed hard. One girl brought her “cousin” who turned out to be her situation-ship, and that dude brought like three of his boys who definitely weren’t invited. My kitchen turned into a BYOB jungle, and my living room turned into a full-on rave. I was literally hiding my cat in the bathroom because some guy tried to feed her tequila. Not joking.
Then, my upstairs neighbor, who’s basically one warning away from calling the cops over footsteps, came down, banged on the door, and started yelling. I tried to deescalate but someone behind me thought it’d be funny to squirt him with a water gun. He flipped. My landlord lives in the same building, and of course, she showed up five minutes later with her arms crossed and her judgment dialed to 100. I’m now facing a noise complaint and a possible fine.
TL;DR: never tell people they can “bring someone” unless you want your place turned into a frat house.
Comments
These people are not your friends.
people are a bunch of assholes
Know the people you invite home and be clearer about what’s ok and not ok at your place… communication is key !
Never expect that people will be reasonable, just give your expectations clearly at the start…
You can tell people « you can come with +1 or +2, but ask me first » and « this will be a chill party where we will not drink too much and be careful about not bothering my neighbors »
Then you have set the tone and you’ll be legitimate about asking them to leave your place if they disrespect your place and your rules
Yeahhhhh this is one major fuck up, if you want to extend your lease you gonna need to fix things with your landlady fast. You literally just handed her a perfect justification to not only refuse to extend your lease but also pin all damages in the place on you.
Duh, you should have invited your land lady too. Clearly she was upset that she wasn’t invited! Upstairs neighbor can’t say shit if your land lady is doing jello shots in your kitchen.
You set the rules at your place. If your friends invite people over (that you approve) they’re the ones vouching for them.