I saw this person make a vent post and I felt like I related to their feelings. I wanted to share my own related experience with them but I thought it would be too much personal details to comment under the post itself, so I private messaged them. I told them that I related to their feelings and asked if I could share my story/experience with them because I couldn’t share it with just anyone without being called a Karen by others. At first they happily messaged back “omg yes ofc!!!” Only to then send a message saying never mind because they somehow thought I had a kink on the topic I wanted to talk about. That shocked me. I couldn’t believe they would think that. I had made a post in an NSFW community causing my profile pic to be NSFW, and I guess they saw it and thought ill of me. I messaged them saying that it wasn’t like that and that I only left my true feelings out to post in that subreddit as I thought that subreddit was most appropriate for posting it, since no other subreddits seemed appropriate, nor would accept it and would get negative backlash. I apologized if I gave them the wrong impression of me and if I made them uncomfortable, but they completely ghosted me.
Not only that, but they proceeded to delete their post in its entirety! It made me want to cry because I feel so bad that their impression of me may have made them uncomfortable enough to do that. I feel terrible about the fact that I had just caused someone to delete their whole post when I just wanted to have a chat about something I thought we could relate to! It also made me so angry and upset because they clearly judged me wrongly and formed an opinion/jumped to a conclusion, telling me I had a kink when I don’t, at least not on that level. Even if I did, I was left feeling very insecure about it. I hate making others feel uncomfortable. Now I don’t think I have the heart to private message anyone anytime soon.
TL;DR I private messaged someone wanting to share a story/experience with them about something I related to in their post and they declared that I had a kink and ghosted me, before deleting their post, leaving me feeling bad and insecure.
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Just some perspective, your interaction may of not even been the reason it was deleted. That person may of received other private messages, maybe even some that were in reference kink related to the topic. At that point OP might believe their post is attracting too much negative attention and delete it in its entirety and not respond to any messages regarding it, worried they won’t be able to decipher which are good intentions and which are not.
Personally I find disappointing people on the internet good practice for when it happens in real life.