I am in Vegas for a work conference for three days. I met a girl from South Korea in the elevator ride to my room after checking in. I helped her with her bags after I saw her struggle getting them in the elevator to our room. We exchanged Whatsapp contact info and messaged each other throughout the week.She told me she’s visiting all the major US cities before she went to South Korea. On the last night, she sends me a sexy picture on whatsapp telling me I was cute and she was sad I didn’t find her attractive. I did not get the vibe she wanted more than friendship from our conversation but I was wrong. I told her we could meet up downstairs, have a drink and take it from there. She messaged back saying she changed her mind. This isn’t the first time I had a girl tell me I missed the signs. TL;DR: I have a problem picking up girls signs they want more than friendship. I didn’t pick this south Koreans chick signs…in Vegas..
Edit 1: there is an age gap of 9 years. She is in her early 20s and I am in my early 30s. We messaged each other on what’s app throughout the days but I was busy attending a work conference while she had stuff already planned most of the day. I also think some of the flirting via WhatsApp was lost in translation.
Overall, my fuck up was counting myself out from the start. Let that be a lesson kids. I also appreciated everyone sharing their stories(corn) and POV’s.
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This is why the most successful guys approach Women as a numbers game. If they’re attracted to her they’ll shoot their shot, if the girl turns them down at least they tried. The most successful person with Women I have ever seen was my older Brother. He “assumed” every Woman thought he was hot, and that’s how he would interact with them as if he was the prize. What’s funny is most of them turned him down, however he approached so many Women for every 5 that would turn him down at least 1 would reciprocate and never did he ever have the regrets that most of us have when we fail to make our move or read between the lines. In reality, most fear rejection too much to adopt my Brothers philosophy, many of us are just wired differently, in my experience if a Woman really likes you she will make it easy for you, which is probably not the best strategy but that’s what my experiences have taught me.
I remember in HS, a girl drove me home from school. We were sitting in my driveway talking and she just casually mentioned that she shaved her legs and asked if I’d like to see how smooth they were. I touched them and said yeah, pretty smooth. thanks for the ride and got out. Pretty sure I missed something there.
i don’t think she even wanted friendship. she just wanted some strange and a story to tell.
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take with women who are going to reject you and ruin what little self-esteem you had anyway.
I bet she also told you on the second day “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” and you were like “yeah, I’ve seen that movie too”
I’m not sure why this story is so reactive. Did you want something to happen before you knew she was interested?
The way you’ve told this story makes it seem that you didn’t and are lamenting the loss of something you didn’t want. It’s weird though in your defense maybe there is more to it?
Bro went to sin city to do good deeds 😂
If I was single, maybe I’d be just as oblivious as OP. Because how does giving contact information correlate to having sex? I don’t understand the thought process of the dating scene currently, thank God I’m married.
Been there. Only difference was that I realized it like a month later.
Tbh I don’t get the other replies here. What I’m reading from OP is that a person “gave signals” by exchanging phone numbers and texting a bit. She never makes her interest explicit before it was too late, later says that she’s sad that nothing happened and immediately retracts her interest. Sounds borderline manipulative to me.
OP, I think you dodged a bullet.
I had a friend playing games with me on a “love sac” which is just a giant bean bag chair basically and she said “I’ve always wanted to have sex on this thing” and I said “oh yeah it’s a great time, you should definitely try it” then I mashed her with a blue shell and fucking won the game and proceeded to make fun of her for being a loser. Lol
oh well. i was having a late night snack in vegas and some smoking hot peruvian chick sat herself down and proceeded to make some heavy passes while we at together, singely. found out she was there with a group, said she wanted a place to sleep and i wished her luck and paid my bill and left. to the outrage and glares to every male within ear shot.
i had made commitments and something was off there. something is off for your situation too.
If it were not for my wife letting me know, I’d never know other girls were flirting with me.
I had a girl look me square in the eyes and literally say, “Hey I like you.”
I somehow missed that sign.
You dodged a bullet, OP.
She was a Hooker.
I was playing beer pong with a woman. I was just out of college and she was in her early 30s. Single mom who had a night away after getting her folks to watch her one year old.
We win at beer pong and we start talking about what it’s like to manage life with work and a kid… something I understood nothing about at the time. She inserts the following statement into the conversation: “You know, it is strange – you have to plan around every little thing. For example, I haven’t given a blowjob in a few years and I really miss it.”
I didn’t miss what she meant, obviously. I both appreciated how forward she was and also wanted to slam my head against the wall because I was technically still in a relationship (“technically” because the metaphorical Titanic had hit the iceberg, but not yet sunk).
She was a lot of fun. We hung out for the rest of the night, blowjobless.
Girl sends a sexy pic and asks, “What are you doing tonight?” OP:
If she changed her mind because you didn’t jump at her right away, she seems to be little crazy anyway. I think you dodged a bullet here tbh.
I’ve never had a girl send me provocative pictures to tell me she’s lost interest…
Seems strange.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet my friend.
I spent most of this post thinking you meant you didn’t get the signs she was a prostitute and you ended up owing a lot of money.
But….even if you thought she just wanted to be friends….what was the point of messaging all week without grabbing dinner? You were in the same hotel.
Does she have plans to roll through a city near where you live? Ask her to spend time with you.
I recommend watching the following educational video on the topic. It goes through a variety of scenarios and explains how to interpret them properly.
https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw?si=01F4JGCtEU797bWn
My first girlfriend literally had to corner me in a stairwell before I got the hint.
Neighbour asked if I know how to get rid of ants. Asked me to come take a look. She had vacuumed them already. She described where they were coming from by bending over in front of me and pointing at a small hole.
I proceeded to add ant powder and then asked if she needed anything else. She asked if I wanted a drink or anything for the help.
Declined as I had a coffee on my desk next door and left.
My brain processed as soon as I got through my front door:
She was hot as hell and to this day she is still the one that got away in my mind. Sigh
probably a prostitute and she would fleece you at the end
In Vegas especially, I would assume she was a prostitute/escort or part of a kidney harvesting group.
It’s 11:30pm. We met at a training class, both away from home, both young, and single – she was attractive, intelligent, and fun. A bunch of us went out for dinner, a comedy show, then drinks the last night of the class. I’m back in my hotel room, when I hear a quiet knock at the door:
Her: “Can I come in? It doesn’t have to mean anything.”
I let her in, then laid back down on the bed facing the tv – I mean, there was a good guest on. We sat on the bed together and watched the Late Show until she left about 45 minutes later.
Those words haunt me still, decades later.
I don’t think you missed the signal – if she “changed her mind” I don’t think she was sending out strong signals to begin with. She was just messing with your head at the end of her trip. Don’t fall for that.
This is me when a woman sends signals.
https://www.reddit.com/r/WatchPeopleDieInside/s/eVO5763bOU
This sounds like the girl was toying with you or fishing to see if you were interested, rather than being genuinely interested to be honest. I wouldn’t think too much on it if I were you.
In college I went to a party at a girl’s house and she grabbed me and kissed me. Then she said “did you bring a toothbrush?” I thought she meant my breath stunk so I peaced out and avoided her after that. Years later, it hit me that she was asking me to spend the night.
🎶if you wanna be my lover, you gotta make it explicitly clear🎶
In college, a beautiful Korean girl insisted that I tutor her in French, and in exchange she would teach me the Korean alphabet. “But I’m not qualified!” I kept saying. “I’m a student just like you!” Sigh. She was playing Mahjong, and I was barely playing tic-tac-toe.
You didn’t miss any signs…She wasn’t really interested, she was looking for attention and validation. You were respectful in not assuming she wanted more.
Plot twist: She was an organ thief going on a cross country harvest.
In college a girl I liked invited me over to fix her computer in exchange for dinner. It took forever, and she kept distracting, but I fixed it, wolfed down dinner, and bailed because I had classes in the morning. After that I was hoping maybe she’d give me a shot at a date, but she gave me the cold shoulder.
A week later I mentioned I was a little put out given how much effort I’d put in to revive her computer to a mutual friend. Turned out she thought the computer was unrecoverable and was attempting to seduce me. She dressed up, cooked a great meal, and tried really hard to engage me in conversation.
In retrospect it did explain why she kept leaning over in a low cut blouse and touching me. Of course being me it didn’t even occur to me to just apologize and ask her out.
If women carried around physical signs that said “I’m interested” and gave them to us, we’d still miss the signals 🙂
That time I fumbled the clearest shot I’ll ever get
About 20 years ago, I was 25 and the best man in my buddy’s wedding. His now-wife went to college in a different part of the country, so I didn’t know any of the bridesmaids.
Enter: the maid of honor. Total smoke show. Like, the one that everyone was quietly trying to figure out how to talk to. Somehow, she and I hit it off. A little flirting here and there throughout the night, and by the end of the wedding we were walking back to the cabin holding hands, sitting next to each other on the couch — all the vibes were there.
Then, out of nowhere, one of the other bridesmaids (who, up to that point, everyone assumed was a lesbian) leaned over the upstairs balcony and said something like, “Hey, you coming to bed soon?”
The maid of honor, without missing a beat, kind of nudged me and was like, “You should go.”
I took that to mean welp, she’s not interested in anything happening tonight, so I went upstairs to see what the other girl wanted.
She invited me into her bed…we made some small talk and I quickly confirmed that she was a lesbian (I just got it out of the way and asked her). She then fell fast asleep. Zero moves. Just lights out.
I went back downstairs — maid of honor? Also asleep.
Next day, I’m at the newlyweds’ place helping them with wedding gifts. The bride is on the phone with the maid of honor and I overhear her say, “Ugh, he missed all the signs. If I had to do it again, I’d just jump him.”
Never saw her again. The end.
Let’s just say in this regard if I was a detective I would have so many unsolved cases. I had a girl right out of high school follow me to my bedroom after I told her I was changing my clothes. She said “I know” and sat on my bed while I got undressed in front of her. Before I knew it I had all new clothes on and was sitting on my bed next to her in awkward silence. She got up pretty much in disbelief that I couldn’t pick up on the literal most obvious sign. She said she needed to leave. I pieced together my massive fuckup and by the next time I saw her she had a boyfriend. And that was one of many many signs I missed. I switched high schools in jr year and a girl I always thought was cute cried when she found out and I realized I missed another opportunity to ask a pretty girl out. Don’t get me wrong I’m happily married now with two beautiful children. But…….yeah I definitely missed oh so so so many opportunities over my years. My grandpa called it being a “stone foot rooster in a fuck farm” and boy was i that till I was probably in my late twenties. To be honest had my wife not aggressively pursued me like she did I probably would have missed her too.
Yikes, that one stings. Don’t worry, you’ll catch the next signal
Sounds like she wanted validation more than anything else.
Ok be wary of her if she is still messaging with you. she waits till the last night and then declines to meet to act on what she said, do not send this woman any money in the future if she ever asks. She might just be playing with ya.
Nah you didn’t FU. She did.
She’s screwing with you. Nobody sane sends flirty pictures and then goes “ah nvm”
In this day and age I’m not catching a sexual harassment charge because I thought I picked up some kind of hint or some shit. Men are straight forward, be straight forward, don’t make us play games.
Damn, that was a missed jackpot moment in Vegas!
Brother, I have had a woman undress in front of me in my bedroom and I still missed the signal. I’ve also flubbed at a work conference like this once too I thought a rep was just doing polite sales person stuff until after the ship sailed.
You may have also just missed out on being scammed for a lot of money…so don’t be too mad…
That’s not a fuck up. If she didn’t tell you she was interested, that’s her failure to communicate. You are not a mind reader. If you like someone or something, you say it.
I hung out with a girl friends sister a lot at one point because we were all friends. She was a few years younger than me but not much. We worked together and would flirt for fun, I thought. It wasn’t until after we had hung out a bunch as a group (my friend, her husband, and the sister) when the husband said “Georgia have you fucked him yet?” I was 20 maybe 21 and was kinda shocked by the fact I hadn’t seen the signs but I’m also oblivious to that stuff. I regret not actually dating her back then. She looked like Michelle Williams but with brunette hair and shorter.
You didn’t fuck up, you are you. If she didn’t know how to deal with that, that’s her fuck-up, not yours.
I’m the same way. I missed out on tons of relationships in high school with girls I thought were out of my league. Years later, I found out the truth when they kept asking my Mom about me, if I ever got married.
I asked my wife out after a year of build-up, after having met her where I went to eat lunch every day. We went out on a couple of dates, everything was fine, then finally when we were alone, she just jumped me. She’s Vietnamese, so of course Asian women don’t really do this.
33 years later, after 27 years of marriage, we have three great adult kids going to university. She still jumps me most of the time. If she hadn’t wanted me as much as I wanted her, I probably would have missed that opportunity because I waited so long to ask her out.
When you find the right one, she’ll do whatever it takes to be with you, regardless of how you “fuck up”. The right one won’t fuck up, she’ll get the job done.
Oh, and we got married in Vegas after living together for six years, but didn’t meet there. Just a small connection.
First thing that comes to mind
https://preview.redd.it/ky3ltuuqavef1.jpeg?width=460&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fc58fa2c8ec59edb9c925ceb286b930d5dc397b2
Try being autistic. I miss ALL the signs, and things that are said to me can be pretty damn direct. Eventually they get super mad and start doing crappy things to me because they think I’m ignoring them. It happens way too often. 🤷♀️
On the plus side. OP still has both kidneys.
I was in Las Vegas for CES one year, and was having dinner at the bar by myself. The cute blonde bartender asked me if I was there for CES, I said yes, and she aske me what cool new tech products did I see at the show. I was thinking, damn, it’s been a long day, I just wanna eat this steak and have a drink, now I gotta think about and recount my workday to her?
I half-assedly tried to remember what I saw that day, and told her a few things like drones and robots and whatnot. Then she’s like, “were there any robots there that could buy me a drink?” I was thinking, why would anybody make robots that could buy drinks. So I told her no. She was like, “oh, that’s too bad”, and walked away. For the rest of my dinner I had a nice quiet time and she never bothered me again.
After I finished, I realized that she was trying to get me to buy her a drink. Good thing I never picked up on that, because even though our travel expense reimbursement policy was pretty loose, I’m prety sure flirting with the bartender wasn’t covered.
This is why I’ve always told women: be blunt. Because yes, we guys really are that oblivious.
Bro don’t play these games with girls like this. Flip flopping, mixed signals, etc not worth it.
sounds like an escort.
You didn’t fuck up. She’s a prostitute/escort and you dodged a bullet.
A single guy alone in Vegas picking up a hot chick who is also alone by herself. 100% a prostitute.