TIFU She blocked me for “ruining her life”… then begged me to meet her mom three days later. WTF?

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From the very beginning when I met my ex, she used to invite me over to have cake with her and her friends. Anyway, some time passed and we did a video call she didn’t want to show herself, she never did, always saying her hair was messy. Later, I ended up finding out (according to her) that she had autism. Our conversations were kind of one-sided. We planned to meet at the park once, but she canceled, saying she had hurt her leg.

She told me I was treating her differently because she had told me about her autism. She also said her ex had abandoned her, that she had been seeing some guy who replaced her for someone else. One day, after I got mugged, I almost lost her number and the funny thing is, she didn’t seem to care. She was kind of indifferent and even said she wouldn’t text me unless I texted her first. She would tell me about her cats, and about how her nephews also had autism. She once got really mad when her cousin said she used to drink with her ex.

After a while, I invited her to the movies because she had said we never went out anywhere. At first, she said she wouldn’t go because she was embarrassed. After I insisted, she agreed, but the next day she suddenly said, “Wouldn’t it be better if we were just friends?” Anyway, we still went to the movies. We met there, bought candy, kissed during the film, and spent the afternoon being romantic.

She never let me see her phone and was always very withdrawn. She wouldn’t even give me her Instagram, only sharing it after we broke up. After the movie, she went home. Another time, we went to the mall and she gave me chocolate. We ended up going to a motel, and when we got there she said she was embarrassed and couldn’t have the lights on. I told her it was fine, but she quickly became reactive and her mood changed. We stayed there for a while and then went home.

Before that, we had gone to the park and were being affectionate, and when she was about to head home, I walked her. The strange thing is she made it pretty obvious she didn’t want me to meet her family. I still went with her and then left. Another time, her sister came to drop her off at my place, and I ended up saying that we never went out because she was always making a fuss she got really mad at me that day.

We went to play a game once, and when I said something bad about it, she got upset and stopped playing. She brought me chocolate, we spent time together, and right after she started talking about breaking up. She invited me to a party with her, then said she wasn’t going, then changed her mind and said she was. I got annoyed and asked if she didn’t want me to go with her. Eventually, I said I’d go and asked if I could come earlier, but she made it very clear I should only arrive at 6 p.m.

I ended up arriving earlier, and her sister saw me on the street and asked me to come up. We ended up going to one of her friend’s parties. She introduced me as her boyfriend, and then out of nowhere she said, “Let’s download an app to find you a hot girl?” After that, we went to her place, and she wanted me to spend the night, but I went home.

After all these problems, I called her and broke up. She started crying and blocked me. Later, she said I had “sent her to the psych ward” and that I had taken away her happiness. Soon after, she messaged me saying she missed me more than she thought she would. We started talking again, and while we were chatting, I found her on a dating app. She told me to “go find someone else.” I got mad and questioned her, and she said she was looking for a friend’s ex.

In the end, I told her I loved her. She said it would pass, that she had gone somewhere and wished I’d been there. Then she called me, inviting me to her mother’s birthday party. I didn’t go. Her mother called me asking if I loved her. Later, her mom invited me over for coffee. We started talking again, and she told me her dad was mad at me. I ended up feeling bad and venting online. She found it and told me I had deceived and used her, that she only acted the way she did because she was insecure and had autism, and that she had prayed for me every day. Then she blocked me and disappeared.

TL;DR:
From the start, my ex was distant, avoided showing herself on video calls, and often canceled plans with vague excuses. She said she had autism, was insecure, and had a history of being abandoned. Our relationship was full of mixed signals moments of affection followed by sudden mood changes, secrecy with her phone and social media, and reluctance for me to meet her family. Plans were constantly changed or canceled, and she sometimes made strange or hurtful comments. Eventually, after multiple arguments, breakups, and reconciliations, I found her on a dating app. Things ended for good when she accused me of deceiving and using her, said she had prayed for me daily, and then blocked me.

I can’t understand, what should I do?

Comments

  1. ItsTheWineTalkin Avatar

    You should run, far, far away, and fast.

  2. Daegs Avatar

    Dude you’ve already posted about this, and everyone was super clear this girl is just nothing but red flags. Every ounce of energy you put into this is making your life worse and dragging you down.

    This is your addiction, and you need to get clean. Talk to new people.

  3. Anathema_Quill Avatar

    move on. this is messy and exhausting to read so i can’t imagine how it must feel for you to experience. no woman is worth all of this stress and confusion.

  4. evilonda Avatar

    Bruv, I don’t think she is the only one with autism.

  5. skincava Avatar

    You should know what to do simply by reading the title of your post.

  6. saulgoode13 Avatar

    This is just like a short story by Charles Bukowski, but without the booze and the swearing.

  7. ConIncognito Avatar

    Block her and ignore any future attempts by her to contact you. It’s not that hard

  8. Pte-REDACT-yl Avatar

    This was wild and I had SUCH a hard time following this.

  9. Pte-REDACT-yl Avatar

    Wait wait wait wait… You posted this same story 3 times a month ago, again 23 days ago, and then today.

    Hard to believe this story is real. (After exhausting energy trying to navigate it. It doesnt read well at all)

    If it is, I think the answer is pretty clear. Stop engaging.