you should probably know that we’ve been best friends for about ten years (We met in middle school), of which I had a crush on her for six of them and she never found out.
So that actually happened a few days ago when we took a taxi home after a night out with some friends, and I guess I was really Drunk because I was never planning on telling her that for obvious reasons. She also broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years not to long ago so maybe that’s why drunk me felt like telling her that at that moment.
Of course she freaked out and both of us just kept quiet until the taxi dropped us in our homes.
Now she won’t answer any of calls or messages even though she sees them. I tried to apologize and told her it was a joke but she just ignored me. I guess she took it really hard and now I’m scared to lose my best friend.
TL;DR: MY drunk ass accidentally told my best friend that I’m in love with her and now she’s freaked out and won’t talk to me.
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Best you can do is give space. Freaking out and repeated contacts is not a good look. Just let it breathe.
Hopefully she doesn’t take it as “This dude was just my friend this long to bang me.” Best of luck, would love to hear the outcome.
You did the right thing mate. Now it’s time for you to move on and open your heart to another person, who will return your love. Best 🙂
Give her time, see how she responds when things calm down.
Besides, I don’t think it’s healthy for best friends to keep secrets for long, not even about emotions such as crushes. It’s eating away the relationship slowly and steadily.
You know. I know it’s hard to have no contact with a friend after something like this. But is there an upside to knowing that the feeling isn’t the same?
Is it possible you said more than just ‘hey you are awesome’?
Was the break up too close and you’ve hit the ‘too soon’ button? Maybe?
Give her time. Circle back around in a little bit.
Be yourself and things will be okay.
This was not a FU – It is generally better to let that be known and know where you stand.
IMO you can’t be close friends with someone you have feelings for.
Back off, like other posters have said, and let the chips fall. There is someone out there for you- Believe it.
GIVE HER ROOM! You gave her big news and now she has to think. do you like chocolate…DO YOU?!?! I NEED TO KNOW?+?1? WHAT ABOUT THE CHOCOLATE!!! Even a harmless question like that is annoying to not give the person enough time to answer.
I freaked out when my bestfriend of 6yrs kinda admitted he had feelings for me. What he didn’t know for sure was that in the last month I had began reconciling with the fact that I was falling for him too. He asked me on night what was going on and why I was acting so different, I said I don’t know, he said do you have feelings for me, I said I don’t know, he said will you ever see me more as a friend, I said I don’t know (which were all honest answers at the time). He got visibly hurt and so I left the apartment (we’d been living together for a few months at this point) and stayed with my parents for a few days and didn’t respond to his attempts at reaching out because I was internally freaking out. What I didn’t know is that he’d been living with these feelings for me for our entire friendship and never once did I think he was in love with me, I had only been dealing with my feelings for a month so it was a lot harder to work through. We’ve now have been married for 2 and a half years. SO all of that to say, you don’t know what’s going on in someone’s head until they share it with you. Also not saying what happened to my husband and I is what will happen here, but just an anecdotal experience to help reiterate that you cannot read people’s minds. Let her come to you when she’s ready, but don’t drive yourself crazy assuming you know what she’s thinking/feeling until you’ve had a chance to talk with her.