TL;DR: increasing “princess treatment” standards are getting to me even though a year ago, I never cared about this.
Has anyone else noticed the increasingly intense standards of men in heterosexual relationships on tiktok lately? I’m a 25F recently engaged to 25M. Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of TikToks urging women to set their “bare minimums” to things I would say is unreasonable, such as females never driving, paying for flowers/nails/etc. Comments on other people’s posts can also be brutal. For instance, mainly female commenters will criticize men for looking tired in their girlfriend’s Tiktoks and that “men’s eyes never lie.” I think especially with JaNa and Kenny from LI breaking up, people are so quick to read heavily between the lines and make these intense assumptions. My fiancé is a person you might describe as a “black cat.” He has a dry sense of humor and he is definitely more introverted. Lately I’ve noticed I get on him about his facial expressions or slight remarks that if posted online, could be seen as “inappropriate.” Obviously this is a small percentage of our relationship but I’m not used to thinking about this. This has never bothered me before but I think this tiktok rhetoric has really gotten in my head. Has anyone else noticed this or felt pressured in their current relationships because of these changing standards?
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We recently moved to a new town with a new friend group and this comes up especially in group settings because I don’t want my female friends to have this perception that he’s not XYZ
You’re not crazy for feeling this shift. TikTok has a way of planting doubts and pressures that weren’t even on our radar before. A year ago you didn’t care, because you were setting your own standards, now you’re being fed someone else’s. Don’t let social media noise rewrite the reality of your actual relationship. What matters is how you and your fiancé treat each other day to day, not what strangers online decide is ‘princess treatment.’ Protect your peace, not their opinions.
Either delete tiktok or make a brand new one.
Your algorithm is broken and feeding you this shit.
Ive never seen stuff like this once on tiktok.
Also this post is kind of confusing cause you assume everyone knows what these standards and judgements are. I have no idea what you’re talking about.
Fr, TikTok’s turning relationship norms into a sky-high expectations game. Everyone suddenly needs to be a mind reader or perfect GF/BF trophy 24/7 😩 can’t we just chill and appreciate the good old genuine moments without the social media flair?
You just have to ignore people on the internet unless you start to meet real people with those opinions.
Remind yourself that the internet is a mix of:
Wait until your friends actually start talking about needing princess treatment before worrying about them. Then explain it’s as made up as tradwives, chads, and freemen of the land.
Also, either swipe on immediately or (if you miss that boat) hold down on any tiktok about this and say you don’t like it. You build your fyp brick by brick. If you’re seeing a lot of it, it’s because you’re engaging.
It has been suggested that some of these videos are intended to sabotage relationships and get you to rely on whoever gave that shady advice. I think you should cut back on the amount of time you spend there.