23M and 23F I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a while now(2 years), but I’m starting to feel emotionally drained. Recently, she asked me to pay for her train ticket and said she’ll return the money once she gets her stipend. I told her honestly that I’m tight on budget right now I’ve helped out at home and only have limited money left for myself. Instead of understanding, she got angry and uploaded Instagram stories saying things like, “If you can’t afford my lifestyle, you can’t have me.” This isn’t the first time it’s the 5th or 6th time she’s reacted like this when I’ve said no or tried to explain my situation. She never tries to understand, she just expects me to always say yes to her, no matter what. I’m starting to feel like I’m not in a relationship but just in a cycle of emotional guilt and manipulation. I’m tired. What must I do?
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>I’m tired. What must I do?
You already know what to do. Why would you ever let someone treat you like that?
The answer is clear. Stop tolerating her behavior. Try to communicate with her calmly and assertively why you cannot do x or y and if she does not want to accept/understand rump her bro. It is not worth staying in a relationship where you feel you are being used and not understood. Heads up and stand up for yourself
If she’s done this several times already, she doesn’t respect you. I don’t think I could ever do that to my boyfriend. I rarely ask him for anything due to the way I was raised but even if I desperately needed to and did and he told me he was struggling too, I would never think to go post about him and embarrass him like that. She sounds like she’s lacking in empathy and is very immature. If it has you feeling tired and drained, I’m sorry but the best option is to find someone who is more understanding and respects you. Not someone who humiliates you, especially when she’s lacking in money herself. You’re absolutely being manipulated.
Fuck her one more time and then dump her.
Tell her she couldn’t afford your lifestyle.
Oh, mate, if your sexes were reversed I’d still say: time to end this.
People who care for each other don’t mooch off each other.
“If you can’t afford my lifestyle you can’t have me” SHE can’t afford her lifestyle if she needs you to pay got her train ticket. Thats toxic shit my man – distance yourself from this entitled woman. Jeez
Well, she’s told you where she’s at with that quote. She’s very transactional. Sounds like to her, men should provide as recompense for putting out. If that’s the way she rolls, I doubt she even likes intimacy all that much. To her, it’s a chore to endure to get material things in life. Now the world knows it, thanks to her insta. Are you going to continue to be a mug for a 7th or any number of other times? She can only carry on punishing you for non-compliance for as long as you keep letting her.