To all the guys: Would you choose to become a girl — either right now or in your next life — if given the chance? Why or why not?

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No judgment — just honestly curious about your thoughts.
Would you switch right now if it were possible?
Or would you prefer to try life as a girl in your next birth instead?
Or not at all — and why?

Comments

  1. Fer4yn Avatar

    No, because I don’t have gender dysmorphia.

  2. furutam Avatar

    Depends if I’m reborn in a society where abortion is legal, teen pregnancy is basically nonexistent, and women make up the majority of college students

  3. No_Salad_68 Avatar

    I wouldn’t. I don’t think the benefits of being a woman offset periods etc and being physically weak.

  4. RGfrank166 Avatar

    No, there are some things that are easier for woman and harder for men and vice versa, but taken broadly men have it easier.

  5. ElegantMankey Avatar

    No, I don’t see why.
    Also strength sports would be a lot less fun with almost no testosterone

  6. 5ft6manlet Avatar

    Sure why not. It’d be nice to see what both sides are like.

    Then, in my third playthrough, I’ll be genderfluid and play both sides and come out on top.

  7. Wizdom_108 Avatar

    I’m ftm so no. I feel like I sort of already been there, done that.

  8. Gold_Telephone_7192 Avatar

    No, I know I’m a man and I feel like a man and I like being a man.

  9. ThatMBR42 Avatar

    Nah, I like being a dude. I like being me.

  10. richbrehbreh Avatar

    Hell no. New game plus as a girl would suck, no offense to the ladies.

  11. RealUltrarealist Avatar

    No, there’s something wrong there. Some fundamental instability that can lead to either someone being absolutely incredible, or absolutely insane.

    Being male is more predictable middle ground.

  12. Slarg232 Avatar

    Wouldn’t chose to currently, am quite comfortable being me, but I mean I wouldn’t mind (and honestly, wouldn’t know) if I was one next life.

    Would lose the ability to Helicopter Dick, but would gain boobs to play with without having to ask someone else. Seems like a fair trade

  13. detox_daisy72 Avatar

    No, its just too disadvantageous as compared to being a men

  14. jadonstephesson Avatar

    Nah I like being a man. And I also feel like, despite there being positives and negatives for being one or the other sex, women generally have it worse off and suffer more often for nothing but their sex than men.

  15. CreatineAddiction Avatar

    Nope. Too many advantages being a man.

  16. ThatSmartIdiot Avatar

    Next life cuz i dont have gender dysphoria

  17. Canada_Ottawa Avatar

    I would like to be able to fully understand the thoughts and feelings of a woman, but not be transitioned into a woman’s body.

    Something like the 1983 film Brainstorm.

    Why I want to truly understand a woman’s (or anyone’s) thoughts and feelings?

    + To enhance my empathy and understanding of others perspectives / lived experiences.

    Why I don’t want to be transitioned into a woman’s body?

    – I am currently wired as heterosexual and would worry that, given my current wiring, this would create a situation of gender dysmorphia.

  18. no-long-boards Avatar

    Not really. I’m more curious to know what it’s like to have sex as a girl but considering how much I like girls I might just end up a lesbian!

  19. azuth89 Avatar

    Nah. Looks like more trouble in a lot of ways.

  20. shinn497 Avatar

    I would 100% want to be a girl for a lot of reasons.

    1. People just seem to like women more, especially young women. As a man, you are invisible and disposable.

    2. Better fashion choices.

    3. Much easier to get into relationships. I am not saying that relationships are easier. But the difficulty is in other parts.

    4. Don’t have to worry about being drafted.

    5. Everyone wants you to succeed.

  21. garbonzoborg Avatar

    Forever? No. For a day, a week, or otherwise temporary like I can change back whenever I want, or even change back and forth any time(without some sick twist like horrific pain and mutilation like a cronenberg film) then hell yeah. Would be amazing to get a sense of what the other half experiences.

    That’s one thing trans friends of mine who transitioned in adulthood have a really interesting perspective on, but also unique as well.

  22. GideonZotero Avatar

    No. They don’t seem to be that happy in general. It seems like they are never satisfied with what they have. Ever. I can’t imagine living a life like that.

  23. SteamPunq Avatar

    Only if it was temporary, but not if its permanent. I like being a dude, but wouldn’t mind giving a few thing ls a test drive.

  24. with_a_stick Avatar

    I would swap to be an insanely hot girl with hige boobs. I would have no issue living the OF life.

  25. karspearhollow Avatar

    They have an easier time with all the shit I struggle with. So sure. I’m sure I’d wish for things the other way around then, but the grass is always greener on the other side.

  26. BosPaladinSix Avatar

    Fuck no are you kidding me? They have way too many problems to deal with.

  27. OhTheHueManatee Avatar

    Even if society generally treated women as equals to men and were not treated as sexual conquests by a lot of men, neither of which I can ever imagine ever happening, I would not want to be a woman. Periods would drive me absolutely insane. I have no tolerance for pain and wouldn’t be able to handle the mental strife of my hormones going cattywampus every month. Plus pregnancy seems like a form of sci-fi torture. I’d avoid it at all costs if I could get pregnant. I’d flat out refuse to have PIV sex with anyone (it kind of amazes me that sort of thing isn’t common). It would be especially awful if I had large breasts. The back pain, the sweat rashes and the overpriced bras would make me want to give up on life.

  28. Relevant-Rooster-298 Avatar

    No way. I wouldn’t last.

  29. somguy-_- Avatar

    No. I have a simple reason why. Helicopter.

  30. WhyDidntITextBack Avatar

    Yes. Seemingly way more social and class mobility.

  31. asleepbydawn Avatar

    Nope. I like being a dude.

  32. NoOneLeftNow Avatar

    I mean

    Would I be pretty? Cute? Hot? Weird but attractive? Oddly enticing?

    Pretty important ngl

  33. pfcgos Avatar

    I’m not trans, I’ve never felt a second of gender dysphoria, and I would say that I generally like being a man, but I’ll admit to being at least a little curious what life would be like as a woman. If it were offered to me, it would probably depend on a few variables like cultural views on women wherever I would be in this second life, but I’d be at least open to the idea.

  34. OrlandoLasso Avatar

    In the next life. I’d want to be a hot girl and I’d try to marry someone rich when I’m young. I’m cool with who I am right now. It would be an interesting experience though.

  35. Aaod Avatar

    I do not think I am a woman and I like being a guy, but my life would have been dramatically easier and better from so many angles that I would have to be an idiot to sign up to be a man once again. Literally the only extra disadvantage I would deal with would be periods/period pain and their are so many other upsides to make up for it.

  36. MindlessDouchebag Avatar

    No. I seek to avoid being/being seen as a woman whenever possible. Before I felt that I was really a man, I knew that I wasn’t a woman. And that feeling has only gotten stronger over time. There is something about womanhood that distinctly makes me uncomfortable (at least being perceived as a woman that is. Being around women is totally fine, and I do find women aesthetically or even sexually attractive sometimes, and that doesn’t bother me). I can’t even fully explain what it is. There’s just something about womanhood that I really do not vibe with at all, whereas with manhood, it doesn’t bother me whatsoever.

  37. 12MonthsForMoths Avatar

    No. I’m comfortable with how I am.

  38. Vic_GQ Avatar

    Not again. I was forced to try and hated it. (mostly for physical reasons)

  39. dib1999 Avatar

    Right now? Nah

    Next life? Yeah sure why not. Can’t get all the achievements if I don’t try every class.

  40. Praise3The3Sun3 Avatar

    I wouldn’t mind being a hot chick for three hours every Saturday afternoon, but beyond that id prefer to be a man.

  41. laperuana Avatar

    Next life, yes it seems like a whole other experience

  42. Fuyukage Avatar

    Oh yeah. I’d love to get run through by the homies

  43. bigscottius Avatar

    No. Because I like being a dude. Standing up when I pee. No bleeding from my privates. Increased physical prowess.

    Fuck yeah.

  44. nudeauthor Avatar

    No. I don’t believe that there is a next life. And I’m not confused about my sex and sexual orientation. I’m happy with what I am.

  45. jsh1138 Avatar

    No, because being an irresponsible child forever is not interesting to me

  46. ForzentoRafe Avatar

    Prob not coz periods

  47. Nouseriously Avatar

    No, it seems like a much more stressful & dangerous life

  48. DandantheTuanTuan Avatar

    It depends on whether I’d be an attractive woman or not.

    If I was going to be a woman who is attractive, then I absolutely would choose to be a girl in my next life.

  49. Sauce_god05 Avatar

    Fuck nah. I’d rather become a penguin or a bear. Fuck becoming a human again.

  50. RaphealWannabe Avatar

    No thanks, better the devil i know than the one I dont. 

    Now if I could shapeshift into one, that would be extremely tempting. 

  51. pyr666 Avatar

    if it changed my genetics, I probably wouldn’t have the health issues I do. Y chromosome is a chump. might be worth it.

  52. romulusnr Avatar

    When I was younger I really did feel like it would be nice to be a girl. Course, I was a bit dumb then. But I think there’s plusses and minuses and it’s not terribly clean cut that one is better overall.

  53. Hoopy223 Avatar

    Hahahahahahahaha

    Nope

  54. nipslippinjizzsippin Avatar

    i think i would like to give it a shot, see what all the fuss is about.

  55. chenzo17 Avatar

    No. I’d rather choose to just not be, not exist at all.

  56. Reckless_Waifu Avatar

    Yes, more out of curiosity and novelty rather then not being satisfied with being a guy. 

  57. Jeramy_Jones Avatar

    No. I don’t want to go back. (Trans man)

  58. Ta-veren- Avatar

    Nah.

    I wouldn’t want to be the visible. No one cares what I do. What I wear. I can go to the store, the beach, not one person is looking at me or caring in the slightest.

    Couldn’t deal with constant attention

  59. 639248 Avatar

    Depends. If I was in a modern western democracy, sure, I’d give it a shot. More experiences to have. But definitely not in a repressive or highly religious country.

  60. Kontrastjin Avatar

    I don’t want to come back and in my belief structure there is no feasible way for any collection of atoms or Words upon potential that could recreate all the conditions that made me “me”, I’m a limited edition… just like everyone else.

  61. Suppi_LL Avatar

    With my current knowlegde of men, I’m pretty sure I’d be a better woman. 

    I’m convinced my childhood and teenage years would have been better were I born a girl. I don’t want to trauma dump on reddit but I do feel like my current personality and mind got shaped by stuff that would not have happened were I a girl.

    If I could rewind my life as a girl, I’d probably do so. I took years to accept the me I’m today, I’m not gonna switch without a rewind.

  62. magniankh Avatar

    Yes, I’d try it in the next life, because I think good looking smart women can get ahead way easier in life. It might be a “man’s world,” but men seem so easily manipulated by women. 

    Industries and people also give young women more chances in life. Rene Russo was “discovered” by an agent while shopping, or something to that effect. Basically some horny dude thought she was hot, now she’s famous with money. Not to say she is talentless, but women get so many opportunities if they are willing to use their beauty to get ahead. 

    Look at Onlyfans. Men aren’t making millions a year like that. 

  63. Kashrul Avatar

    Now – don’t think so it would be way too difficult to explain to those who are important for me as well as government without becoming subject of experiments for the rest of my life. Next life – well the existence of a next life would already be huge and a chance of getting it on the easier level is something stupid not to try.

  64. CostPublic9736 Avatar

    And deal with a period monthly? No thanks. The lone positive is oif you’re even avg looking you can make bank on OF or an e-girl or Instagram model. Easy money. Men gotta work cuz ain’t nobody wanna see our parts🤣

  65. RoyaleWhiskey Avatar

    I hope I’m not reborn at all , I can’t do this shit again.

  66. gwynbleidd_s Avatar

    I’m curious, so yeah. But I should have a memory of my previous life.

    In general, if everyone had an opportunity to have an experience living in other gender, people would be kinder and more understanding to each other.

  67. maybe_not_andy Avatar

    No thanks but I know I’ll be able to get lots of advantages of being a girl

  68. IntrepidDifference84 Avatar

    Nah, I have accountability

  69. Level9_CPU Avatar

    Nah dude. I appreciate all the women in my life, but I get to avoid childbirth, periods, menopause, constant scrutiny, having to cautiously maneuver through interactions with men to not have them think I want to fuck them

    Love you all, but damn do you guys have it hard

  70. WodensBeard Avatar

    I don’t care. I just want to be happy.

  71. Towtruck_73 Avatar

    If the Hindus are right and we get seven goes on this planet (look it up, I’m not making fun of anyone’s religion) I’d give it a go for the experience. I’m not belittling women either, just noting that it’s a different experience to being a man.

    A sudden change would be a little too much of a jolt. There’s an Aussie movie called “Dating the Enemy” starring Guy Pearce and Claudia Karvan. He’s the presenter of a music show, she’s a journalist whose specialty is science and technology. Bear in mind that because they’re in each other’s bodies, they also have to go to work at each other’s jobs. There’s some really funny moments where he’s coming to grips with the physical experience of being a woman. She has a slightly better time of it, although when she first discovers it and calms down a little, she pulls back the waistband of the boxer shorts. “Looks like something out of ‘Alien’” she thinks. funnier still when she suggests they have sex; “think about it, you’ll have a very rare, maybe one of a kind perspective on it. Do it for research.”

  72. DisgruntledWarrior Avatar

    No. The hell you know vs the hell you don’t.

  73. xKhira Avatar

    No. I like having a strong body and having the potential to get stronger if I wanted to. I also like not suffering a week out of the month every month for no good reason.

  74. AlteringEnzics4Fun Avatar

    No. Maybe in another life just to comprehend how their brains malfunction

  75. kman0300 Avatar

    Nah, I like being a guy. 

  76. Aromatic-Leopard-600 Avatar

    If I was a woman I would be rich.

  77. Angry_GorillaBS Avatar

    Nah seems like a hassle.

    I’d try it for a day or something

  78. jimmyhoke Avatar

    It depends, I don’t think I’d want to permanently become one for sure. The strength and comparatively low-maintenance of a male body is rather convenient. I’m assuming this is just a magical sex change.

    Now if it were for like a month or something, sure. It would be really interesting to see what life is like. I really don’t think my life would be all that different, but it would be a fascinating experiment.

  79. Just_myself_001 Avatar

    first thought , looked down ,thought of popping out a kid through the end of little me – screamed internally – HELL NO , now curled forward holding my bits in one hand

  80. ByEthanFox Avatar

    Right now, no – next life, yes.

    Otherwise I can’t platinum all of the trophies.

  81. HighandMeaty Avatar

    Yeah sure. It would be nice to be able to afford new monthly tattoos and mysteriously expensive holidays every other month.

  82. HonestlyKindaOverIt Avatar

    Next life yes. I 100% would be interested to try life again on easy mode after this!

  83. The_Local_Rapier Avatar

    Definitely! If I become a top tennis player I can get between 33-40 percent more prize money for playing in the same tournament as men. I get treat like royalty when I go on dates with car doors opened for me, food paid for. I can opt out of being a parent if I get pregnant, won’t have got the criminal record I have because courts in the uk charged me for a domestic with zero evidence whatsoever, in fact I had called the police on my ex for stealing every penny I had and they came and arrested me instead. I can get a top job without having to have put the work in or getting the years of experience usually required so that the company can fill a quota. Could go on and on, would be nice to get to try life in easy mode

  84. Ahielia Avatar

    I am very comfortable being a man so not in this life. It would be interesting to experience it, if I was aware the change had occurred.

    As for next life, if I could choose to respawn in a safe western country, sure. Africa or something, hell to the fuck no.

  85. Marty-the-monkey Avatar

    Do i get born in my current country again, or am I rolling the dice completely?

  86. royal-retard Avatar

    As long as I get my girl as a guy and she is hopefully very horny and this time around I get to call her a freak.

  87. marowitt Avatar

    I’d farm onlyfans like there’s no tomorrow, then invest the cash and retire at 30.

  88. dudeimjames1234 Avatar

    Am I an ugly girl?

    That holds a lot of power in my decision.

  89. Feuershark Avatar

    I don’t know about doing another entire playthrough as a woman, tho I wonder how my life would’ve looked like as one

  90. memeatic_ape Avatar

    Yes then I can fulfill the wish of my mother to have a girl

  91. Agile-Wait-7571 Avatar

    I like having a penis. So no.

  92. Effective-Listen-559 Avatar

    Yep! Would love to try all the fashion options available

  93. ifdggyjjk55uioojhgs Avatar

    HELL NO

    I like being able to back up and parallel park with ease.

  94. SentientReality Avatar

    Yes, of course I would like to experience both sexes.

  95. IsDinosaur Avatar

    It would certainly be nice to feel like I matter, but it’s also nice feeling safe, so I’ll stick with what I got.

  96. Upstairs_Luck1461 Avatar

    No Im a man Im nor confused I dont buy into all this nonsense

  97. IntelligentGur9638 Avatar

    I’d be a whore 18-30 in some abroad country. Buy 5-6 apartments and never work the rest of my whole life

  98. HardcoreHope Avatar

    The answer is no. They are taking rights away from people. If you are not in the correct category your life is about to be getting harder. A lot harder now that the bbb passed.

    That’s kind of where I’m at in life right now. Realistic optimist. 26 and 28 are going to be interesting years that is for sure.

  99. mighty_Ingvar Avatar

    I can see upsides and downsides, so I feel like I’d have to take the limited free trial before I could make such a decision.

  100. PlaneAsleep9886 Avatar

    Nah. Having limited control over your emotions sounds bloody awful. Period pains? No, thanks.

    I think when people consider this kind of question, they imagine themselves as some hot cheerleader, and it’s going to be a fun experience. With my luck, I’ll look exactly the same as I do now, but with boobs. Probably little boobs as well.

    Nah.

  101. kdthex01 Avatar

    Hot girl? Hell yeah.

  102. Knights_Fight Avatar

    I would not choose to be a woman. Life can be easy or uncharacteristically hard. Painful periods lasting for a week, painful intercourse, potential for constant nausea when pregnant, your body gets rekt from the pregnancy, menopause, being high risk for cervical or breast cancer even if you have a hysterectomy or mastectomy.

    I’m sure it would be nice getting a ton of attention (supposing I’m moderately attractive), but that’s too little pros to outweigh the cons.

  103. 2020mademejoinreddit Avatar

    I wouldn’t go through a surgery if that’s what you mean.

    But yeah, in modern day, in a first world western country, it’d be objectively better to be a woman than a man.

    So if I were born a woman in a western country in modern day, it’d be a better life. Not in a third world country though. Especially not in a muslim country.

  104. Karakoima Avatar

    Nope. I was born a heterosexual man and I’m fine with that.

  105. Acehigh7777 Avatar

    Always kind of wondered what being fucked felt like to a woman, but not enough to want to be one.

  106. Vargoroth Avatar

    Nah. I’d gain weight too quickly as I love eating. I already to exercise like crazy to maintain this shit body.

  107. danhasthedeath Avatar

    Next life sure. This life not so sure, there are clear advantages and disadvantages to my mind and the reasons I would like to are based on male brain type of stuff.

  108. Ferrarispitwall Avatar

    If I could guarantee I’d be pretty, absolutely. Being a pretty woman is a cheat code.

  109. RedittPermaBan1 Avatar

    No, because atleast men are interested in sex and women. Women are not interested in sex and men. Women are only interested in material which I feel very shallow life.
    One other thing women want is family with 1 man and children but in today’s century where women are already successful, it’s hard to get partner more successful than them and also it’s lot of sacrifice being with one person and raising kids.
    If I want to be a scammer then being woman is best but my soul did not become that gross till now.

    Only good thing for being woman if she gets to be a model or something where she can earn a lot and become famous. Only in that case I would like to become woman as woman is attention seeking but don’t like unsuccessful man’s attention.

    With that kind of unstable brain, atleast give me fame by showing my assets.

    Also I see women are never happy. Give them all the rights, they will find a reason to complaint.
    Don’t want to be pain in the a** of others.

  110. CerebralHawks Avatar

    君の名は。 situation? Sure, maybe. Basically every other day you swap for the day, until someone’s grandma sees you for what you are and calls you out on it, then you switch back immediately.

    Full time though? Nah. You want to experience life as a girl, adopt or father one and raise her. You’ll get the experience you’re looking for, you just won’t be one.

    I think the only benefit to reincarnation is if you tender the past life. If it’s true, you’ve had past lives you don’t remember. Maybe you already were a girl, you’d never know. Nothing in that life informed this life in any way. So how would this life inform the next?

  111. Blagoslov_stonoge Avatar

    no, I am comfortable with who I am. And if I werent, it would still be no, I wouldnt want to deal with periods and other shit. Its easier being a dude

  112. MoonMouse5 Avatar

    I’ve spent 28 years learning what it means to be a man and I’m only just figuring it out.

    I’ve invested too much blood, sweat, and tears to switch teams now. 😂

  113. TrekkiMonstr Avatar

    The question is underspecified. If I could change back, then hell yeah let’s give it a go. If not, then I don’t know I’d want to take the risk. Not that what I’ve got going on now is so great, but. That said, if I have no memories of this life in the next, then sure whatever, I don’t consider that to be myself in any meaningful sense anyways.

  114. WallSignificant5930 Avatar

    Nope, I am truly adapted to being invisible. I wouldn’t last.

  115. low_effort_life Avatar

    Yes, so I can pretty privilege my way through life.

  116. CharmingRejector Avatar

    That’s a no for me. But I’d love to become a ridiculously handsome guy. Right now I’m just incredibly handsome, and TBH that’s just not enough for me.

  117. Sel_Therapy Avatar

    Na, I’m good not having to deal with periods, pregnancy and menopause. No disrespect to women. That’s why I think women and their bodies are amazing

  118. NotTobyFromHR Avatar

    I think I’ve always known it was tougher for women, but after I joined the workforce as an adult and had daughters, I realized more of extent.

    I hope it keeps getting better, but it’s definitely harder for women. Biologically, professionally, and just existence.

    If a male does a traditionally female thing, they’re welcomed and praised. A woman can’t even join a video game community without being hit on or harassed.