Knowing that I don’t have to worry about someone else’s emotions, wellbeing, and quality of life. Caring for myself is work enough, I’m doing a pretty good job of it right now, and I don’t need someone to come mess it all up. Plus, I give myself better orgasms than anyone else, so no problem there either
My friends (all female, transwomen, or non-binary – I’ve never made a male friend who didn’t want sex or a relationship with me). I know that if I got into trouble, they’d come to my rescue. If I fell ill, they’d nurse me back to health. I hug, kiss, dance, & hold hands with them all the time. No shortage of love in my life. I love my career. I love peace & freedom. I have everything I need.
Dude dating stresses me the hell out. What keeps me going is knowing there is no added stress like when with someone. I always think, “look. It could be worse. You could have someone nagging you about texting you back right now” and usually that reminds me I’m all good lol (I am also grieving & working my ass off, hard to find time anyways)
Building my confidence and interests through trying new hobbies or independent travel (especially solo international travel). Knowing that I can do whatever the heckin heck I want to do and want to accomplish without paying mind to what anyone else around me thinks.
Remembering gratitude in something big (or small), every day. My fur child, supportive friends, and living a drama-free life – it’s limitless! Especially after developing better boundaries – I cut out toxic people/former friends, and say no to more people. Especially those who only reach out in times of need.
To summarize: I’ve learned to enjoy who I am and that makes growing possibilities more desirable and feel less of an obstacle.
Realizing that the dating pool is legitimate toxic waste right now. 80% of men are alpha male douchebags with little to no respect for anything other than their genitalia. Most men have no idea how to even think emotionally without it falling to anger or sadness anymore and my roommate is a prime example, he matches with women on dating apps, convinces them that he cares so much about them, sleeps with them 3-6 times a week for about a month and then completely blocks them on everything because he got bored or they started to get attached. Ive had several conversations with men who do the exact same thing and women eat it up nonstop. And women have way to big of egos now, with kill all men, the bear vs the man, all men are rapists until proven otherwise, modern feminism and unless your the trending ideal of male beauty you have almost no odds of dating anyone who hasn’t been with 20-40 partners (I could care less but still). It’s just bad everywhere, and unless legitimate gold falls in front of me, I’m tired of being used for money, sex or my time and effort just to be cheated on, lied to or lead on because it’s funny to do that now I guess. My cat is more than enough comfort compared to everything I’ve experienced dating.
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Honestly, my fur kids and my garden. Self care is super important.
I can’t afford to date someone right now and honestly just trying to do my best rn bestie
Knowing that I don’t have to worry about someone else’s emotions, wellbeing, and quality of life. Caring for myself is work enough, I’m doing a pretty good job of it right now, and I don’t need someone to come mess it all up. Plus, I give myself better orgasms than anyone else, so no problem there either
My friends (all female, transwomen, or non-binary – I’ve never made a male friend who didn’t want sex or a relationship with me). I know that if I got into trouble, they’d come to my rescue. If I fell ill, they’d nurse me back to health. I hug, kiss, dance, & hold hands with them all the time. No shortage of love in my life. I love my career. I love peace & freedom. I have everything I need.
Dude dating stresses me the hell out. What keeps me going is knowing there is no added stress like when with someone. I always think, “look. It could be worse. You could have someone nagging you about texting you back right now” and usually that reminds me I’m all good lol (I am also grieving & working my ass off, hard to find time anyways)
The fact that I can treat myself better than anyone has ever treated me. I do things to make myself happy and enjoy this life.
Building my confidence and interests through trying new hobbies or independent travel (especially solo international travel). Knowing that I can do whatever the heckin heck I want to do and want to accomplish without paying mind to what anyone else around me thinks.
Remembering gratitude in something big (or small), every day. My fur child, supportive friends, and living a drama-free life – it’s limitless! Especially after developing better boundaries – I cut out toxic people/former friends, and say no to more people. Especially those who only reach out in times of need.
To summarize: I’ve learned to enjoy who I am and that makes growing possibilities more desirable and feel less of an obstacle.
Realizing that the dating pool is legitimate toxic waste right now. 80% of men are alpha male douchebags with little to no respect for anything other than their genitalia. Most men have no idea how to even think emotionally without it falling to anger or sadness anymore and my roommate is a prime example, he matches with women on dating apps, convinces them that he cares so much about them, sleeps with them 3-6 times a week for about a month and then completely blocks them on everything because he got bored or they started to get attached. Ive had several conversations with men who do the exact same thing and women eat it up nonstop. And women have way to big of egos now, with kill all men, the bear vs the man, all men are rapists until proven otherwise, modern feminism and unless your the trending ideal of male beauty you have almost no odds of dating anyone who hasn’t been with 20-40 partners (I could care less but still). It’s just bad everywhere, and unless legitimate gold falls in front of me, I’m tired of being used for money, sex or my time and effort just to be cheated on, lied to or lead on because it’s funny to do that now I guess. My cat is more than enough comfort compared to everything I’ve experienced dating.