I already had grievances due to the fact MIL is NEVER on time for anything. She is consistently late to birthday parties and other get togethers. We will ask her to watch the kids and she will show up hours late. It’s to the point I don’t even wanna ask anymore. Some people say I should just be grateful she shows up at all, that’s how she always has been, etc. Then last week, we were at the zoo and one of our kids got a huge meal big enough for two adults and was supposed to share with their siblings. She still had a decent portion, and her youngest brother asked for a one piece of fruit and she said no and jerked the plate away. I told her she needed to share and my MIL said “she is” after she just also watched her jerk the plate away and knew this grandkid hadn’t had a bite of food yet. My husband sat there and did nothing, but constantly complains about my mom doing the same. WTF?
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“[MIL name], your son and I are here. We will parent our child.”
Sounds like she’s still trying to undermine you. Your husband’s lack of support is concerning. You deserve better. Set clear boundaries and communicate your expectations. If he can’t back you up, it’s time to reevaluate his role in parenting decisions.
Classic. MIL disrespects you in real time, husband turns into a decorative throw pillow. But when your mom breathes wrong, it’s a federal offense. Double standards are wild when mommy’s involved.
MIL, nobody asked you.