Today, a couple who I considered to be amongst my closest friends in the world had a baby shower. Not only was I not invited, I didn’t even know they were having a baby.
I had a baby myself 18 months ago, and it has been a rough time. I haven’t been able to host my friends over as much as I used to, I haven’t had money to go out as much as I used to. It felt really lonely and I tried to reach out but my messages often went unread. When I did invite people over, everyone already had various plans.
We haven’t caught up properly in almost 12 months – actually the last time we were all together was my children’s baptism, a year ago. I just thought we were all busy. I got it. I was busy too. Life got hard. I just thought we were in a different era of friendship – too busy to catch up much but still had love for each other, y’know.
But I opened up Instagram today to see photos of a baby shower I wasn’t invited to for a baby I knew nothing about.
Scrolling back through our messages, I see now just how many of my messages went unanswered. How many invitations they passed up on. I just thought they were busy. I didn’t try too hard or get upset about any of it, because I was busy too, I understood.
I thought these people were my friends. Some of my closest friends. And I am so happy for them. But so incredibly heartbroken that it turns out we’re just not friends at all anymore.
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I know it is painful, but you need to move on. Real friends would be there for you anytime, support you , and look for you .sometimes, we lose them for different reasons . At this point, we need to focus on ourselves.you have your kid and your work or study. A new hobby would be perfect to meet new people and new friends.