Here’s some context. I was a dork when I was a kid. I was super nerdy and unpopular, didn’t have that many friends. In the 8th grade the teacher was reassigning seats and seated me in front of a popular girl called Laura. I didn’t expect it to happen, but we ended up becoming best friends.
After I became friends with Laura, I was immediately thrust into the popular circle. I made many new friends because of Laura. My friendship with Laura lasted all throughout highschool and into my mid twenties until one day, she made a certain comment.
We were sitting on my porch and reminiscing about elementary school with another friend. She described me being a dork and said how “she gave me a social life.”
At that moment, I realized something. All my life, I had trouble making friends. I always assumed Laura was the reason I had friends. I then decided to remove her from my life and start talking to people on my own. Surprise surprise, I made all these new friends. I now have so many friends that I don’t know what to do with them all. It was then that I realized that Laura had been holding me back for all those years. There was nothing wrong with me in regards to making friends—it was her attitude holding me back.
Also, in high school, there were times where she had been mean to me and knew she could get away with it because I wasn’t popular. She had this “I made you popular” superiority mentality control thing that I quietly accepted. So when she made that comment, it was almost as if she still had that high school mentality.
After she made that comment, I stopped talking to her. I now have a new best friend, and a new life. But sometimes, I still have thoughts of rekindling the friendship. She was my friend for over 10 years, and parts of me still miss her. What do you think Reddit? Did I make the right decision to cut off my best friend?
TL;DR My former best friend said that “she gave me a social life.” I realized that she was holding me back in regards to making friends of my own. Did I do the right thing to cut her off?
Comments
That’s pretty shitty and immature. This woman did not “hold you back” from making other friends, and cutting someone off in your 30’s because you just decided you didn’t like a thing they did 15 years ago is a dick move.
She’s better off without you.