I’ve been interacting with a female colleague for the past 2 weeks. We’ve spent time commuting, chatting during breaks, and even went out once for snacks. She laughs, teases sometimes, and seems comfortable around me.
However, I’ve noticed she never initiates personal conversations or asks anything about me. I’ve shared stories, offered lunch, tea, and even asked if she was single (she said she is, and talked about a possessive ex). But even after all that, she doesn’t ask about my life, hobbies, or even basic things like my birthday.
She asks for help at work and stares sometimes while I’m helping her, but I’m not sure if it means anything or if I’m just reading into it.
I’m starting to feel that maybe this is one-sided. I’m thinking of stepping back, especially since I’ll be on leave for a couple of days. I want to see if my absence is even noticed.
Has anyone dealt with something similar? Is slowly distancing the right move when someone shows only surface-level engagement?
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Yes distance yourself. Work relationships can get veeery messy . Its not worth the hassle and risk. I’m currently going through this, i wish i never started it.
Work “friends” are not friends. Either accept that or move on.