Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/E5Pn7Hdm2m
Update 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/0Y7DyhAmVA
Update 2
Mentally, I’ve been doing okay. I’d be lying if I said this hasn’t been hard, it has. Some days are better than others. Part of me still have the urge to unblock her, just to see what she might say but I haven’t and I won’t. One quote I saw on Twitter has been helping me stay grounded. It said:
“Because no amount of ‘I love you’ can erase the fact that you looked at my worth, weighed it against your urge, and picked the urge.”
I made that quote my phone’s lock screen. It’s a constant reminder not to give in.
On the health front, I’m clean so far, thankfully. I’m staying cautious and plan to continue regular checkups just to be safe. I’m also currently looking to move. I don’t want to risk her showing up at my place again.
Therapy’s been going great. Pottery, though, I suck horribly but will still continue to go. I still carry some guilt about what happened with her family. I know I didn’t cause the fractures, but I lit the match that exposed all of it.
According to one of her friends, she’s aware of the post. That same friend messaged me calling me a “dick,” claiming this was an invasion of privacy and that I should’ve talked to her one on one instead of going public.
I didn’t respond.
After everything that’s happened, I’ve said my peace. I’m not interested in debating my healing process with people who is enabling her. Right now, I’m focused on moving forward.
Comments
That friend deserves to get cussed out. You can’t tolerate ppl who support cheating, they need to be called out too. Glad you’re doing okay tho.
i’m so glad you’re finding peace in learning to take care of yourself! you deserve it
On the pottery front, we all suck at things when we first start. Keep at it and one day you’ll find your niche within pottery. Maybe it’s making little animal figures, or perhaps mugs. You’ll find it.
Re: pottery. They say 10,000 hours of practice is needed to master something. Keep at it.
Is this the same friend who got chewed out and left the party previously?
Okay, so I had to take my time and go through the previous posts, and boy, that was a long read. I’m glad I did, though. What a ride. This was a masterclass in justifiable revenge, and I’m glad that you’re taking care of yourself and being mindful of what’ll keep you in the proper headspace going forward.
And just in case it needed to be said, NTA. People doing things wrong are the only folks that hate the truth coming to light. The truth has set you free, my friend. Be free.
Good for you! I hope you never unblock her.