Update – AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend via Reddit?

Many people requested me to update them on this story. I’m fairly new to Reddit so I believe this is how you do it. Original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC/s/ZVfTvPlUIf

TLDR: I found my gf cheating with multiple people and sent the screenshots to her friends and family during her brother’s birthday party.

Thank you all for the overwhelming support and kind messages after my last post. If anyone’s wondering yes, I’m doing okay. Something just clicked while I was going through those messages. For the first time, I truly realized I’m worthy of love and that the first person who needs to give that love to me is me.

Out of all the options I had in that moment, the one I chose felt like the smartest. If I had confronted her in private, she could’ve manipulated the narrative or gaslit me into doubting what I saw. If I had gone downstairs and made a scene, I would’ve been surrounded by her family and friends which would’ve turned into a screaming match where I’m outnumbered. So I removed myself from the situation and let the truth unravel on its own.

Just to clear a few things up. We both had our locations shared on iPhone. I wasn’t stalking her. The “sexy” photos weren’t nudes. And even still, I didn’t send those pictures out only the text conversations between her and the guys she was messaging. Sending those to people is wrong on another level and I would never stoop that low.

After I left, I took an Uber home, grabbed a few things and went to stay at my friend’s place for the night. I felt okay, but I thought that’s just the adrenaline. I and I’m going to crash hard. I’ve already signed up for therapy, scheduled an STI test, and I’m planning to take boxing and pottery classes just to keep myself active and focused.

While I was staying over, one of her Call of Duty friends messaged me. Turns out the guy she slept with has a wife and kid. I’m not sure how that situation is unfolding, but I hope his wife finds out. That friend also told me she’s been removed from their squad.

Our mutual friend group has shown a lot of support. One of them even removed her as a bridesmaid from their upcoming wedding, and blocked her entirely.

I thought everything had finally calmed down until I came back home this morning. I had already blocked her on everything, so there was no way for her to reach me. Instead, she showed up. She drove her parents car to my house and sat outside until she saw me. As I walked to my door, she came out crying hysterical, a messy mix of sadness and rage. I didn’t say a word. Just walked inside and closed the door while she yelled from the other side until she eventually left. Nothing was mentioned about the Reddit post so I guess she didn’t see it.

Later that day, her brother called me. He apologized on behalf of the family. He said everything seemed normal after I left until their mom check her phone. She pulled my ex aside, trying to keep things quiet. But then her aunt, the one who talks a lot, shouted, “You’re cheating on your boyfriend!” in front of everyone. That blew the lid off.

According to him, their family has a history with infidelity, and it caused serious pain in the past. So this incident not only reopened old wounds but more cheating scandals within the family were exposed that same night. This party was supposed to be a reconciliation moment for relatives who hadn’t seen each other in years.

And the friend who celebrated the cheating with her? She got cussed out so badly by the family that she left in tears.

Her brother told me he doesn’t blame me for anything. He even said I handled it better than most would have, and he’s here if I need anything.

Honestly, the only thing I feel bad about is unintentionally ripping apart a family that was trying to move forward. I had no idea all that was going on behind the scenes, and I do feel like an asshole for being the grenade that set it all off.