UPDATE: AITA for calling my friend a ‘creepy weirdo’ after she posted a TikTok about my husband?

Previous posts are on my account. It’s been a while since I posted. A lot has happened since then and honestly, I don’t even know how to make sense of any of it anymore.

For context;
My (28F) friend June became obsessed with my husband (32M), secretly filmed him at home and work, and posted a viral TikTok. She had hundreds of photos and videos of him. It escalated with stalking, creepy messages, and a confrontation in a parking lot where my husband thought she was pulling a weapon. We involved the police, tried to get a restraining order, increased security, and nearly relocated. This was around 9 months back.

We didn’t end up relocating. Things eventually calmed down. June’s parents actually came over and apologised. They told us she checked herself into a mental rehab facility. She’s been diagnosed with some stuff. I’m not going to get into the details, but apparently she’s doing better now. She even messaged us months later and apologized. It seemed genuine. We accepted it but we’ve kept no contact, and she’s respected that. She’s still in therapy and being monitored, from what I’ve heard.

But yeah. That’s not the part that messed me up.

My husband and I are getting a divorce.

After everything we went through, I really thought it would bring us closer. I stood by him when he was falling apart. I handled everything. I looked after him, I took care of things, I stayed calm when he couldn’t. I thought we were solid.

Two months ago he told me he wanted a divorce. Just like that. No fight. No lead up. I asked why and he just shrugged and said he needed to move on. I asked if something had happened or if I had done something wrong and he just stared at me like I was speaking another language. Like he wasn’t even interested in explaining.

Looking back, he started changing around five or six months ago. Like he couldn’t be bothered to engage with me anymore. It wasn’t sudden exactly, but it was steady. He stopped checking in. Stopped talking unless it was about day-to-day stuff. And I kept thinking maybe it was the aftershock of everything we’d been through. That maybe he was just processing everything in his own way. But now I don’t know. I honestly don’t know what I was looking at. He went from crying and breaking down in my arms last year to being a dickhead a few months later. And I still don’t understand what changed.

And yeah, I’ve thought about whether there’s someone else. There was this one time I saw him staring at the WhatsApp profile pic of one of the junior dentists at his clinic. He didn’t know I was behind him. I asked what he was looking at and he said her dog. She’s absolutely gorgeous. Super confident, bubbly, the kind of person who lights up a room. And they had this natural chemistry. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Nothing I could really call out. Nothing inappropriate. But it was there. I didn’t think much of it at the time. I trusted him a lot. Maybe I was just stupid enough to believe he was actually looking at the dog and not the young, beautiful woman in the photo. Maybe stupid enough to think that my husband was different from the other men who cheated on their wives. Maybe it’s a coincidence that she broke up with her longtime boyfriend at the same time.

Or maybe it’s nothing. Maybe I just want there to be a reason, because honestly, the way he flipped on me out of nowhere doesn’t make sense. I still don’t get it. I feel like I’m missing something.

He’s already filed and moved out. We barely speak. He’s like a stranger now. And I’m just trying to keep it together. I’ve been drinking more than I should. I know it’s not the answer but it’s what I’ve been doing to get through the days. I’ll sort myself out eventually. I just don’t know when.

That’s where I’m at. I don’t know if I’ll update again. Thanks to the people who’ve been following this whole thing.