Original Post is bellow
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1kheks2/aita_for_living_with_my_exgfs_mom_after_we_broke/
Hi I M22 made a post a while ago asking if I was an asshole for living with EX-GF mom after she kicked my ex out. Most of the info is in my first post but to recap my ex-gf 22f I called her Lisa in my last post she cheated on me and then said some cruel stuff and her mom I called her Jen kicked her out. Her mom Jen said I was welcome to live here for as long as I want. I took the break up hard we were 14 when we started dating and when I was 17 my grandma passed. I went to live with Lisa and Jen and this house has been my home. I loved Lisa with everything I had and Jen had become mother figure for me. This was the first house I lived in and I have lived here longer than any other place so I call this place home. Jen choosing to let me stay meant the world to me. After the breakup Lisa and her former friends relentlessly attacked me and blamed for Lisa being kicked out and it became overwhelming. Being told that over and over convinced me that I was at fault but writing everything down helped and I received some dm’s that helped a lot.
Now for the actual update a lot happened, a few days after my post Lisa came by we talked just the 2 of us for the first time since she was kicked out. She started off by apologizing but immediately tried shift blame on me and then her mom. Then asked if she could have a second chance, I said no and then she asked if I was sleeping with her mom I said no that she is the only person I have ever been intimate with and that Jen was basically my mom. Then she said so you’re still in love with me a smugness that drove me insane. I remember exactly what I told her “I don’t love you the second I found out you cheated on me it disappeared and that I would rather drink 3 litres of elephant piss everyday for the rest of my life before I would get back together with her”. She slapped me and then went to the backyard and had it out with Jen.
She said some of the most vial things I’ve ever heard in my life and I won’t write it down and I definitely won’t speak it to her mom it was disturbing. Then Jen in a very calm voice said that she was no longer her daughter and told her she was trespassing and to get out Lisa looked shocked and than stormed off.
The second Lisa left Jen had a meltdown it lasted hours I was pissed off at Lisa. She confided in me that she hates her daughter now and doesn’t want a relationship with her anymore. She started going to therapy and told me around 2 weeks ago that she is disowning Lisa and it’s what’s best for her mental health. That her therapist said she can still love her daughter and not want anything to do with her. I’ve been supporting her the best I can, I like being helpful. Lisa made less and less attempts to contact me, she is living with her dad.
5 days ago I got a text from Lisa’s best friend lets call her Kate she was one of a few of Lisa’s friends who didn’t harass me and actually “picked me” in the breakup. We’ve talked a few times since the breakup to console me. She asked if she could come by with some of Lisa’s friends so they can apologize I was apprehensive but this woman is a straight shooter and I was curious. So they came by and Kate said thank you for letting them come over. Then the other 3 woman each took turns apologizing to me than they apologized to Jen for everything than dropped a bomb. They didn’t know she was cheating apparently Lisa has been telling people that she only cheated because I was sleeping with her mom and that’s why she was kicked out. I asked why they thought I would ever do something like that and why are they apologizing now. They said it was easier to think I was a cheater than their best friend was a “lying c*nt” (there word not mine).
They told me they had cut her out, I must have looked like I didn’t believe them so they all showed me their text messages to Lisa and there social media. It seemed really important to them that I believe them and yeah they definitely did. They were not gentle about it to say the least. I accepted their apology mostly. They all left but Kate, Kate and Jen went to the backyard I don’t know what they talked about but they were both smiling when they came back. I thanked Kate for setting them straight and being on my side through out the break up. She said she was just following her moral compass.
I’m doing much better now and I don’t plan on moving out until the time is right for Jen and me. Jen has become my best friend and we support each other. I have a routine I follow that really helps also I started sleeping better. I mostly just wrote this because it helps me clear my mind.
I skipped a lot and sorry for my spelling.
Comments
Glad to hear that things are getting better.
Op, can i just say how happy i am that you actually called the friends out?
“Oh we thought that you were sleeping with her mom and got her kicked out”
“…and why would you believe that…?”
Seriously more people on this sub need to do that.
You did nothing wrong bud, good luck
Nta. Don’t trust her friends, it’s a trick for sure. They really NEED you to believe them. They are spying. Don’t let them know that you know.
Also, you should lay some pipe on the mom, then text a pic of it to the ex with the caption “I’m your daddy now”
OP, do you think it’s possible the reason she cheated was because she legitimately believe you were sleeping with her mom?
The idea is mentioned by her twice in this post so meh, food for thought.
Why do I feel that Kate is waiting for you to heal before moving in.
Updateme!