I got so many comments under my original post and so many private messages that I am unable to reply to each and everyone so I figured I’ll post a short update.
First of all, our little Amanda is doing good and stays in the hospital. She’s being fed with formula and bottles (my brother had to agree to this) and since yesterday gained 30 g. She had more tests done and we’re waiting for the results. The doctors are also worried about the fact that Julia forcefed Amanda with cereal mixed with donor milk before the appointments because apparently it can cause some problems with digestive system in the future especially that they don’t know for how long she’s been doing it and she doesn’t want to admit it.
Secomd, thank you all for your support. Also, thank you for the comments stating that we let Amanda down and put her in danger. Me and my mum realise it and we feel terrible about it.
Some people were questioning what happened because my previous post in other groups stated that Julia is feeding Amanda and that she’s doing everything she can to provide milk for her. And yes that is true, this is what we knew at that time. We didn’t know Julia decided that it’s either breastmilk or nothing at all. She only said this in front of the doctors.
My brother took vacation at work and most of his time he stays with Amanda but he will be moving in with us. All this time he’s been working and later doing overtime under the hand and he feels exhausted but says he had no other choice. He promised he will do everything he can to be a good father.
We don’t have any information about Julia but no matter what we worry about her. She’s our family as well. She doesn’t have her own family (she said before the wedding that she and the rest of her family had a fight and they cut her off so she is alone in this world and we felt very sorry for her).
We managed to get in touch with one of Julia’s friends Linda who was donating milk to her. Linda was terrified with the story and admitted she was the one who told Julia to pretend that she’s afraid of us poisoning her. All of it because Linda’s MIL was demanding to visit them after the birth so she used this excuse for people to leave her alone. And apparently Julia said to Linda before giving birth that Amanda is only hers and only she has the right to hold her, and Michael (my brother) if really needed. And I don’t understand this because my mum never asked to hold Amanda. In the hospital, two days ago, it was the first time we saw Amanda in real life.
Linda also told us that she introduced Julia to The Milk League (???) and there she found out all the bad things about formula and bottle feeding. Also it turns out she never wanted to vaccinate Amanda but my brother forced her to. Linda said she recommended Julia a couple of lactation consultants who apparently weren’t real educated LCs but some women with instagram accounts claiming to know a lot about breastfeeding.
This is all for now. This is all the information I gathered. The most important to me is that Amanda is safe with the doctors and nurses. I will update whenever I know something more if you want.
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I got so many comments under my original post and so many private messages that I am unable to reply to each and everyone so I figured I’ll post a short update.
First of all, our little Amanda is doing good and stays in the hospital. She’s being fed with formula and bottles (my brother had to agree to this) and since yesterday gained 30 g. She had more tests done and we’re waiting for the results. The doctors are also worried about the fact that Julia forcefed Amanda with cereal mixed with donor milk before the appointments because apparently it can cause some problems with digestive system in the future especially that they don’t know for how long she’s been doing it and she doesn’t want to admit it.
Secomd, thank you all for your support. Also, thank you for the comments stating that we let Amanda down and put her in danger. Me and my mum realise it and we feel terrible about it.
Some people were questioning what happened because my previous post in other groups stated that Julia is feeding Amanda and that she’s doing everything she can to provide milk for her. And yes that is true, this is what we knew at that time. We didn’t know Julia decided that it’s either breastmilk or nothing at all. She only said this in front of the doctors.
My brother took vacation at work and most of his time he stays with Amanda but he will be moving in with us. All this time he’s been working and later doing overtime under the hand and he feels exhausted but says he had no other choice. He promised he will do everything he can to be a good father.
We don’t have any information about Julia but no matter what we worry about her. She’s our family as well. She doesn’t have her own family (she said before the wedding that she and the rest of her family had a fight and they cut her off so she is alone in this world and we felt very sorry for her).
We managed to get in touch with one of Julia’s friends Linda who was donating milk to her. Linda was terrified with the story and admitted she was the one who told Julia to pretend that she’s afraid of us poisoning her. All of it because Linda’s MIL was demanding to visit them after the birth so she used this excuse for people to leave her alone. And apparently Julia said to Linda before giving birth that Amanda is only hers and only she has the right to hold her, and Michael (my brother) if really needed. And I don’t understand this because my mum never asked to hold Amanda. In the hospital, two days ago, it was the first time we saw Amanda in real life.
Linda also told us that she introduced Julia to The Milk League (???) and there she found out all the bad things about formula and bottle feeding. Also it turns out she never wanted to vaccinate Amanda but my brother forced her to. Linda said she recommended Julia a couple of lactation consultants who apparently weren’t real educated LCs but some women with instagram accounts claiming to know a lot about breastfeeding.
This is all for now. This is all the information I gathered. The most important to me is that Amanda is safe with the doctors and nurses. I will update whenever I know something more if you want.
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This just kept getting worse. I don’t know who is worse your brother, Julia or Linda. Julia and Linda tie honestly
This is sick. Absolutely sick
I hope little Amanda continues to get the care she needs away from her insane mother and friend
Thank you for the update and for prioritizing Amanda’s health. It’s heartbreaking to see how complicated and stressful this situation is for everyone involved. It sounds like you and your family are doing your best to support her and keep her safe, which is what matters most. Hoping Amanda continues to grow stronger and that Julia finds the help she needs too.