Update – AITA for telling my sister that my only regret is slapping her instead of punching her harder?

r/

Hi all. Thank you for all your advice and feedback to my other post! Some of you have sent me messages asking for an update so I will provide. Some of you have also sent me links to some questionable people who have taken my original post to another sub, making fun of my mom for being disabled. In case the same individuals see this post too, I just want to wish you all the very best in life! I would like to call you animals but that would be too offensive for the actual animals to be compared to you, but if you are the type of creatures to make fun of people with health issues or disabilities, well I wish life gives each and every one of you what you deserve. Remember karma always comes back and when it does it usually slaps us in the face harder than I did to my sister.

So the update. Nova did try to report me to the police and nothing came out of it. We found this out from my cousin who knew about the conflict and decided on her own to snoop a little, initiate talks with Nova and find out what she is on to. As expected, the police told Nova that she has not sustained any kind of injury, that this is a family matter that should be solved between us and that basically they have more important things to do than waste time on catfights between sisters. So I will not face any kind of charges, I will not be convicted for assault, I am not going to jail, I will not have anything on my record etc.

Dad tried to have one last talk with Nova thinking that maybe he can make her see she is wrong and help us mend our relationship. So he dragged me to meet her to talk. Mom was not present because we had to protect her from my sister so she stayed at home. The meeting and our talk went as bad as I think everyone expected. Nova continued with her non sense, called dad abusive, claimed that he is the typical male who wants to put women down, that he controls mom by making her a breeder and a SAHM so that he could feel powerful etc. Dad informed Nova that since she has such horrible parents, an abuser and a breeder she could start considering herself an orphan from now on. This time I did not slap her, I was not violent in any way and I just told her I am ashamed of being related to her. I told her that she needs help to get out from the cult she joined and most probably from the drugs she has been using during her retreats in Peru. She denied the cult and the drugs and said I was stupid because I can’t understand she had her spiritual awakening and she is the one seeing things clearly now. I told her no, she had no spiritual awakening. She is just a miserable person with no friends except of the ones from the cult, no partner, no life, nothing. And that before judging women for being breeders she should think long and hard that those breeders were able to do something in their lives while she is just a lonely, sad person who needs drugs and coca leaves to cope with her misery.

So we are no contact with her. I don’t know if in the future she will come back to her senses or if we will be able to mend things if that happens. But for now we don’t need this kind of insanity in our lives.

Comments

  1. dstluke Avatar

    True spiritual awakenings lift those around you up and bring you closer. Cults damage those you love in the guise of spiritual awakening in the hopes of isolating you. She’s in a cult.

  2. Fancy_Average5440 Avatar

    Good riddance to bad trash.

    That said, I think her next awakening will be when she has no money, no job, no friends, and needs rehab. Y’all can expect that phone call in maybe a year or less.

  3. Katefoolery Avatar

    Your sister is indeed in a cult, and her warped and abusive take on feminism makes my blood boil.

    A huge part of real feminism is about CHOICE, the fight for the freedom of that choice, and honoring other people’s choices. There is no one clear definition of what feminism looks like in a person’s life, hence: Intersectionality (Thank you Dr. Kimberlé Crenshaw). I choose to get my nails done, my friend chooses to wear her hijab, my other friend chooses to cut her hair short and often gets mistaken for a man, and some women choose to stay home. All of that is valid.
    Given the vitriol your sister is spewing, I feel very sorry for the folks who are receiving her “coaching”. OP if you happen to drop me a DM with the name of the coaching company, they may just happen to get review bombed, maybe.