Update: AITAH for telling my dad his whole family is dead to me after what they did to my mom?

Hi! I know it’s been a few days since my first post, I’ve read through every comment and message I’ve gotten, thank you for the supportive ones and the not so supportive ones as they opened my eyes to a lot of things I had denied myself

I want try clarify a few things, we are originally from south america, but we don’t live there anymore, we moved here when I was 5 (most of my dad’s family lives in this country and that’s a biiig part as to why we moved here as well) and the culture is that family is very very much vital, we have big families and of course being ostracized brings a lot of questions, judgement and a lot of loneliness. Now, I don’t want to fuel more hate towards my dad but to those saying he is a weirdo, you are in fact correct: my mom got pregnant with me at 23, when my dad was 34, made her drop out of college, isolated her from her family and didn’t marry her until they had my brother (yes I do have a brother, 14M, sorry for not mentioning him but I’m not on speaking terms with him since he fully on supports my dad’s actions and has for some years now)

Now for the update on how everything is going, my mom is finally considering divorce!! I showed her the post and she was so relieved that other people were on her side, tho a bit mad at me for airing our business online lol, someone mentioned alimony and it opened our eyes ’cause of course she’s entitled to it, she doesn’t have a job and we have a detailed timeline alongside witnesses that she was forced to drop out of uni and had job opportunities denied by my dad – we also have a strong case of past physical abuse (my dad kicked her while she was pregnant with me and almost caused a miscarriage) and cheating, we are moving quietly while my mom tries to get as much support and resources as we can, but we are on a good path! She plans that, in a few months, she’ll move in with me after serving my dad divorce papers, that way he can’t do anything, but we’re still consulting with a lawyer

To the people concerned about my finances, I do have a nice job (I hit the jackpot with my current boss) and my mom’s side of the family, the siblings she has left, are so supportive of her that they are aiding her financially and have offered to cover legal fees – I don’t want to divulge more information and I probably won’t update for a while, but I just wanted to thank every single one of you for helping me not feel so crazy and alone, I cannot promise y’all that my mom will go no contact with my dad since they do have my brother left, but I’m hoping everything goes according to plan, once again thank you so so much and wish us luck!