Update: AITAH for telling my mom she wasn’t the ‘better parent’ and that it sounded like heaven when she said she’d never talk to me again?

Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/IWi06hmOHY

Thank you all for your kind words. Honestly, reading your responses really helped me step back and validate my own perspective. Growing up with my mom has always been difficult she’s narcissistic, controlling, and manipulative. Her whole family has mostly tolerated it, which made me feel like I was constantly in the wrong, always backed into a corner.

This situation helped me realize I needed to step out of that mindset. I needed to see my experiences from my own perspective and recognize that my feelings and reactions are valid. For instance, talking to my grandmother about the situation confirmed what I already knew: my mom has always treated everyone poorly, and it’s not just me. Most family members tolerate her behavior to avoid conflict, even my younger siblings. I’ve always been outspoken about her treatment of us, which has made me seem “difficult,” but in reality, I’ve just been honest about her behavior.

As a result of this recent incident, I’ve decided to go low contact with my brother. He has been influenced by my mom and started calling and texting me with insults about things I supposedly did wrong, things that only make sense from her perspective. I’ll probably also go low contact with my sister because I’ve realized she shares information about my life with my mom, even after I’ve asked her not to. I want to protect my boundaries and maintain some privacy.

Regarding my mom, I’ll be moving to no contact. I was already pretty much no contact, but also I’ll be including avoiding family functions where she’s present and limit any other interactions. So that I can protect my mental health and break the cycle of manipulation I’ve experienced my whole life.

Thank you again to everyone who offered support and advice.