Hey everyone.
firstly I just wanted to say thank you everyone’s kind words and advice.
You all helped me immensely, I guess I’m just gonna kinda use this Reddit as a diary plus minor updates etc kinda thing
Today was my sweet girls 3 month birthday. Excitedly got her dressed into the cute pink dress I bought her ( yes I am one of those mums who buys an outfit for every milestone sue me 🤣 )
I was reminded of how when i announced it was girl during my second trimester my mother immediately responded with “ don’t buy too much pink, you looked god awful in it “ and how I immediately ignore it and went ham on everything pink, floral and frilly much to my mothers dismay, and how when she opened my daughters wardrobe after she was born I could see the mild irritation.
onto why I’m updating, so my sister visited in the weekend with her two children. It was nice watching my niece adore her new cousin. Nephew didn’t really care but how very boy of him LOL
but they all went back home and finally for the first time in weeks I heard from her (ironic, post here and suddenly she feels a feeling in the air)
i quote
“ your sister showed me photos from the weekend and there is something I want to address, you need to stop letting her sleep on your chest, it is changing the shape of her face and now both sides are flat. “ (btw have no issues cause the photos included all children)
Context, my lovely girl sleeps through the night in her bassinet it’s amazing and fantastic, however fights day naps like they are torture and the only way to get her to nap is for her to be on someone’s chest. Mildly inconvenient yes, am I going to stop doing it? Lmao no she is a baby and is discovering her hands exist, self soothing is not in her definition of understanding right now
but you can imagine I immediately saw that message and went to look at my daughters face and was like ??????
Then messaged my sister and she was like “ her face isn’t weird, mum just doesn’t agree with you letting her sleep on you.. “
I went back to mum and said
“ hey, thanks for messaging but uh she has her visits to the doctor and they don’t see anything wrong? “
her response
“ oh i just knew, i just knew my opinion didn’t matter to you! “
Sat there after that message with the armor you lovely people gave me from my post earlier and just laughed and didn’t respond
I know the next few comments will be “ go nc! “
and yeah.. you know when you see something on the horizon inching closer and closer but you don’t want to acknowledge it, I’m there
I know I’m there
Unfortunately I’ve been through this before and I’m no contact with my father. I guess I’m just not ready yet.
I’m currently nap trapped once again, listening to my girl giggle in her sleep (who does that btw?!)
reading all of your comments over and over again, they feel like a warm hug, even the ones that are brutally honest.
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Your mother just loves to shit on you any way she can. I hope her favoritism to her golden child doesn’t extend to your child being the scapegoat/forgotten grandchild to your mom.
Since your mom won’t say this to you I will. You are a wonderful mother and you are raising your child with the care and nurture she will need to navigate life. Enjoy those baby snuggles, let LO contact nap on you. Before you know it she’s going to be a teenager and heading off to college. Savor these moments and grey rock your mom so she can’t find little ways to pick apart your self esteem.