I wanted to put an update out there from my post last November.
So Christmas Eve came and I stayed with my parents and late grandmother (who I was taking care of on hospice btw-something MIL did not show any care towards)
He walks into his parents door Christmas Eve and hears his sister saying “OP and DH are coming? I don’t fucking want them here”
In that moment he said he wishes he just turned around and walked out the door, but he was confrontational. Like why would his sister even say that behind his back?
There was a huge argument but they somehow “made peace” in the end and his parents gave him their Christmas gifts for us to open at our house the next day. Something that made me really uncomfortable but it’s whatever. She wrote “Mom” on my gifts. It just took me off guard and I just hate it. She is not my mom. My mom does not act like her.
I opened them a few days later and sent her and my FIL a text saying thank you and merry Christmas ect. But I didn’t use anything. Everything is still in my closet. something just still felt off still. It just didn’t feel like anything was mended-just shoved under the rug like all the other family blowups from the last 8 years.
January passed with hardly a peep from DH’s family to him. Absolutely nothing to me from them.
In February a memory popped up on DH’s FB showing his mom making a comment: “done with you and your new liberal family over there” that was in 2017, which of course at the time started an argument and probably rooted this hatred she had for me and my family. Honestly, we had both forgotten about this shitty comment. And when he found the memory he laughed, rolled his eyes, and said “wow nothing has changed?”
A few days later DH posted a video on his FB bashing Trump for something stupid he said-at this point in the 8 years of DH hating on Trump his family has stopped following his FB. Later, I point out to him that his uncle commented something stupid and hurtful on this video telling him to “grow up” like ?? What?
This uncle wasn’t even fb friends with DH so idk how it even showed up for him to comment. Then his sister-the one we had an argument with in November-commented something so baffling, crazy, absolutely insane. It sounded like it came from MIL instead. Also she wasn’t FB friends or following DH just went out of her way to comment something shitty.
That was it. The last straw.
His parents don’t defend him. His mother has berated him with “I don’t know who you are anymore” when he is the happiest he’s been. She’s hated me forever and blames everything she perceives as “wrong” with him on me “changing” him. His whole family is a toxic mess.
He cut them off that day. I am so proud of him.
It’s been 6 months of no contact. Peace. I feel like they are going to try to weasel their way back in soon, especially MIL. And I know she is blaming me for the NC.
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Congratulations to having a successful break from that toxicity. You get to enjoy your husband and live merrily while they continue to live in hate. Pray you both are blessed forevermore.
Congratulations. And donate those gifts. Get the weight of them out of your life.
Look at you, just out here thriving, living your best lives. Make travel plans now to be on vacay during the holidays. You are now free to move about the cabin!