First off no, this story isn’t AI or fake. It’s sadly true but I can understand why people would think that its AI due to the absurdity of it. Secondly, thank you everyone for the advice in the comments of my previous post. I was lost and looking for some advice because of the uncomfortable situation and people around me felt differently about it than I did. People in the comments were right and I should trust my own feelings rather than searching for answers from the people around me. That’s something that I’ve struggled with my whole life because my family is very reliant on each other and my parents are both helicopter parents. So I learned from young age that I couldn’t trust my own instincts because other people know better. Which is why I asked my friends and mom about the situation. I have a lot more work to do in trusting myself but at least I’m working on it now.
Here’s the update:
After my previous post, I read through some of the comments and realized that what my boyfriend did would be considered assault. It wasn’t something that I had even considered because I was only seeing it as him doing something stupid in the bedroom that broke my boundary and made me uncomfortable. But seeing those comments opened up my eyes a lot. If he was willing to break my boundary only after a year of dating and could do that to me in the bedroom than what else could he be capable of?
I met with him the next day at our apartment and I told him about my feelings which he didn’t seem to care about. I showed him the reddit post so that he could see that other people were also uncomfortable with what happened. He read through your comments but when he saw the word ‘assault’ being used a few times he got really aggravated. I had never seen him that angry before but he was screaming nonstop and he even whipped my coffee mug across the room. I ended up crying because I was scared and I think that snapped him back to reality or something because he stopped yelling and was trying to comfort me. I made him leave our apartment again because I didnt want to be around him anymore. That night my friends helped me pack up my stuff and they took me to my parents house which is where I’m at now.
After I was out of the apartment and safe, I called him and broke up with him over the phone because I didn’t feel comfortable doing it in person after his previous reaction. I’m so upset that I wasted over a year of my life dating him and even thinking about a future with him. Thank you all for giving me the courage to follow my feelings and break up with him for good. I really appreciate it. Also, thank you for all the jokes its lightened the mood and has helped me feel a bit better about this situation. Yes ezagreb, the magic is gone and its time for me to disappear.
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Glad to see you are free of that situation. Be safe.
Bold strategy to prove he isn’t abusive by chucking a coffee mug. Happy you are safely out of there OP!
So glad you got out of that, what he did was absolutely insane. Then his reaction and getting violent meant he’s seriously got problems. I hope you stay safe.
Oh shit, the magician’s (ex-) gf is back!
I’m sorry to hear that he wasn’t receptive to you standing up for your feelings and body autonomy. But I’m glad to hear that you recognize the importance of sitting down and recognizing how you feel about things, and acting and enforcing boundaries. Better late than never. I wish you the best in finding short-term and long-term housing, and moving on.
I’m glad you got out.