So I thought everything was all good. We went on a date, he invited me to the movies with his family and I thought everything was back to normal. I was wrong.
So there was a festival in our city, and it was hot so I felt like I was about to faint, but I made it through for two hours. Earlier when we first got there, he invited his family. They made it seem as if they wasn’t sure they would come. But They arrived when we were going to leave.
At this time he knew I wasn’t feeling well but didn’t want to leave his cousin and wife. So I made it another hour and a half feeling like I was about to faint and pass out.
And a day later he tells me they are going out to eat and that I was invited. I was happy he was finally including me in things.
He tells me that he’ll tell me what time they are leaving. He calls me and says “we’re all dressed and about to get in the car and leave”
I was confused because he never gave me a time. I told him I wasn’t ready and that I need to take a shower. He told me “nobody cares if you’re musty, hurry up and come on”
I just flipped out, because wtf. I blocked him on everything so I don’t want to deal with this.
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You were mean.you left yourself out.
WTF am I reading? You blocked your BF over that so you might as well end it.
Just dump him.
If this is an on-going issue and you’re blocking him, what is the point of moving forward and spending more time on this relationship?
If you’re more unhappy than happy, move on.
Girl youre going to block and leave your bf of SIX YEARS over this??? I think there’s a LOT more going on here that you left out because what the actual hell
I don’t get it, he said he’d ring when they were leaving and he did , maybe you misunderstood him to mean he’d tell you the time he was leaving? If you knew you were going out , maybe u should have just had a shower and gotten ready , so you would be ready to go.
I only see you having issues wtf
It sounds to me as if there isn’t much communication even after 6 years together. If you can’t talk with each other, and he isn’t putting forth any effort to include you, why would you want to be with him anyway? Whether his family chooses to include you or not, if he wanted you there, he would make sure to include you. Stop wasting your time worrying about it. You know where you stand. Make a clean break. Take time to get your head on straight. Don’t rush immediately into a new relationship. Once you are in a relationship, pay attention to how both of you treat each other and learn to speak up before you waste 6 more years on someone who doesn’t care if you are included or not.
How long was it between him inviting you and them leaving? Correct me of I’m wrong but – wouldn’t you want to prepare yourself knowing that the leaving time would be dependent on another party (the other family members) and not necessarily within you or your boyfriend’s control?
Given that assumption – wouldn’t the burden of your choice to not prepare yourself for this to be on you? Again within this assumption – wouldn’t it be unfair for everyone to have to wait for you to get ready if the rest of the family was only able to give a short notice?
You could maybe blame the rest of the family for possibly not giving enough notice – but seeing as how you were the only one involved in this situation not prepared – I’d question that assuming your invite was given within a significant amount of time.
Regardless – you being trigger happy on blocking him without having a constructive conversation between yourself and your boyfriend makes me – as an outside viewer with only the information provided – question the worth you’re finding in this relationship.