Hi everyone! I posted this about 4 years ago and though not many people saw it, I thought I would update.
Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/jwf5Lpwg2N
So a few days after that date, Jim called me up and told me that he got his test results back and that they were negative!
I was incredibly relieved and he said that he really appreciated my reaction when he told me. I told him how much I appreciated his transparency.
It hit home especially after my previous relationship which was filled with lies and making me question my own sanity when I was clear about the timeline of events (legitimate gaslighting). I felt like Jim’s character lined up with the person I had been talking to (we met on a dating app and talked for a couple of weeks before our first date).
Fast forward to the present day and we have been happily together for about 4 years and living together for 3 1/2 years with my dogs!
We’re getting married in a few months!
This has been the easiest, calmest, and most loving relationship I have ever been in and we both make the other better every day.
I never thought I would say this given my past, but if something feels right, I encourage you to give it a shot!
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Communication
Leave him immediately
Fake: Happy relationship
Gay: Anon is going to marry a guy
If you read Braille, just read the writing on the balls.
Why is there hope on my pain and misery sub?