A couple people asked me to update. First post is on my profile.
After reading the comments, I decided to tell him. I worked up the courage to do it and it was a bit chaotic. He was shocked but calmer than I expected and we had a long conversation about trust and secrets. He accepts that it’s just something from my past and not who I am now but things have been a bit awkward. I think it will be fine in a couple of days though.
Thanks to everyone for the comments. Some of you helped a lot.
Oh, and for those who asked last time. If you’re seeing this, no, I don’t have any STI’s. I have been tested.
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What’s your hourly rate ?
Good. Always tell the truth, it’s better it comes from you than when he meets one of your clients and finds out because your out having a date night. That’s all we want, honestly.
for every sinner there is a future and every saint they have a past. I am glad that he understands that we are not the people we once were but it was a part of your past that helped you grow into the person you are now. hopefully things continue to work out and the two of you have a long happy relationship.
Jesus use to hang around with prostitutes and thieves, and by the end they all became saints. I’m not religious, I just always liked that part of the story lol
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Owning your past and trusting someone with it takes serious courage. The awkwardness will pass, what lasts is the honesty. You didn’t just share a secret, you built something stronger.
I’m glad it worked out, I did sex work for years and now I’m out and happy with my guy! I’m glad this has worked out for you and I hope it continues to work out!
I was an escort too… Bf won’t care and if he does, he’s not worthy… My now hubby loved the stories and even lets me revisit it when I get the urge…
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Just wanted to say huge respect for your honesty and courage. Sharing something so personal and then having the strength to tell your partner face-to-face, is no small thing. The fact that he listened and took it in calmly says a lot about the connection you two have. Relationships thrive on vulnerability like that, even when it’s uncomfortable. You’re not your past—you’re the choices you make today. Wishing you both growth, healing, and a future that keeps proving how strong trust can be. 🙌
I don’t think your boyfriend will manage. Prepare for some discussions.
Maybe to compensate, you both can hire roughly 5 to 7 escorts for him to have sex with, and kinda match the field.
Respect for doing the right thing. The right partner won’t hold it against you.
Mind me asking how are you doing now after that?
Good for u . U told the truth. Now it’s up to him he will take time to digest the bomb u dropped, but it’s better he knows from u before things get too serious. Whether he stays or leaves, it’s up to him.
There was a post a while back about a woman who used to be a high-end escort . She never told her husband what she used to do, and he got a job opportunity that would make him actually meet people from that social circle, and she was scared someone could remember her or tell him .I don’t know what happened . But she was coming clean years later, and the probability of the confession ending in divorce was high
I rest my case.
He will never marry you now
I love how you had questions asking about STDs, literally the most patronizing thing ever.
Insane that someone thinks that the person making money using their pussy has absolutely no understanding of pussy health and the value of STD tests LMAO
I honestly don’t know why you’d tell him tbh.
Hope told everything as it is.
36F I am currently one
Actually now it’s up to him what he will decide and whatever he chose that’s really okay because relationship about both people not just one.
If he sees you really changed and becomes a better person from your behaviour and action he will understand if not then you know but that’s okay someone else is going to accept you as you are.
good for you. he’s a good guy. i would’ve ended it but his values are different and you’re lucky.
to the men who are thinking it but won’t say it – i don’t want my partner to have shared their private parts with an unhealthy amount of strangers they weren’t interested in long term relationships with. in the eyes of others it makes me patriarchal, sexist, puritanical. to me, it makes me who i am. i would’ve lived these values even if i were a woman seeking a man. and i live that truth because my values don’t affect anyone else. and it’s okay, no matter what reddit tells you.
No matter what happens always be truthful.
You shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone other than another escort. Like what you did is gross and it grosses me out that your boyfriend accepted you. I hope he grows some self-respect for himself. There’s no escaping your past, once an escort always an escort.
I posted on your original thread before I read your update. You had to tell him, because it wasn’t about what his reaction was going to be, it was about what your ‘reaction’ is now. Clearly it was eating you up and you would never have felt good about it until you told him, so you had to tell him no matter what.
Some people can have the littlest self respect and reddit will still defend them. This girl was a prostitute and doing it not out of poverty but for a little extra cash and didn’t disclose it with her bf in the entire 8 months of them dating. Wake up people 😂
Hey OP, there’s a bot stealing your stuff
https://www.reddit.com/r/confessions/s/ymZNbcmkyr
Just tell the next one