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Thanks everyone for your comments and suggestions. I read them all and they were so helpful.
It took a lot of courage and I finally made the decision for us to go our separate ways. It was a hard conversation for both of us to have but it ended up being very amicable.
We are still living together for a couple of weeks and I told her to just say the word if she needs some space, as I’ve got great support with friends I can stay with before I move states for a 5 week univeristy placment.
She’s got her parents house two minutes down the road and she even offered to stay there as she’s empathetic to the fact that I don’t have that option. She has no problem with me leaving personal non essential items at the house until I have a new fixed address. She won’t kick me to the curb basically.
She has been very mature about how we move forward and we have had some of the best conversations we’ve ever had and reminisced about all of things that were great about each other and our relationship.
Overall, we have no spiteful feelings for each other and can feel confident that we can be friends again in the future, after respecting having time and space from each other.
Once again I appreciate all your comments and messages.
Comments
Breakups are tough, but it’s heartening to see such maturity and respect. Wishing you both the best in your next chapters!
Good job OP, it’s for the best!
Glad that worked out so well for you
It’s sad! But understandable…hope the best for both of you!
This was the best outcome. Break ups suck, best wishes for the both of you.
She was never your gf she was just your friend
She’s fvcking the next person in the first date
She was and is just your roommate and friend, but not really your girlfriend.
Dear lord. 5 years. You have some unholy level of patience.
Congratulations on moving on with life, and on doing it without being a dick about it.
Why would you stay with someone 5 years without deep intimacy? Anything beyond 5 months is atrocious
I really hope that yall can stay friends. You both handled this incredibly well
The real question you need to ask yourself is how will a future girlfriend feel if she’s told that you want to remain friends with a woman you were in a 5-year long relationship with? It’s ALWAYS better to permanently go your separate ways where previous relationships are concerned.
She gets it some were els
Bro even breaks up like a doormat