UPDATE: My girlfriend, F23, is mad at me, M23 for crying over a “video game girl,” but I feel like this is a normal experience for people who play this game and now I’m considering ending things over this because I’m “immature.” Do I try and forgive or do I just cut my losses?

New acc cuz I kinda broke the rules for the first one whoops.

Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1m3qm1x/my_girlfriend_f23_is_mad_at_me_m23_for_crying/

Quick TLDR: I finished a game a few weeks back that really stuck with me, and I had an emotional moment when I heard a song from that game while cooking dinner for me and my girlfriend, an argument ensued because I usually do not show these kinds of emotions all that often.

I didn’t get much sleep last night, mostly due to the third night on the couch and overall being really frustrated with how I’ve been treated the past couple of days, but when my girlfriend got up this morning she had a different energy. It was much earlier than she needed to be up and she invited me back into the bedroom to rest, and we could talk later if I was up for it. I just told her we should talk now, since rest would be hard with this heavy burden on my mind.

Well, she apologized. Immediately, she told me how awful she felt for treating me like an cheating boyfriend, and that she had been acting rash and childish out of the fear that I had been falling out of love with her. I was still a little peeved, but I put my anger aside for a while and told her that, yes, she totally had been treating me unfairly for the past couple of days. She didn’t defend herself very much, and she started explaining her sudden change of heart.

This silly argument has been going on since Wednesday night, and in all the free time she’s been having away from me, she had naturally been telling her friends and family. My girlfriend is very close with my mother, so she gave her a lot of detail about the whole situation, including the details about the fake girl that had supposedly “captured my eye.” Well, her mother told the rest of her family, including my girlfriend’s father and most importantly, her younger brother. Now, as I’ve noticed from the comments from my previous post, my reaction to this song and this character are far from unusual, and seems to be a much more common experience amongst the gamers who have experienced FF7. Her brother, quickly catching on to the situation at hand, quickly called my girlfriend and started explaining the situation to her.

While I was writing my previous post, her younger brother had been coming to bat for me, trying to justify that it truly was just the narrative that had brought me to tears. By the way, I wasn’t bawling my eyes out. My eyes were watery, and then there were a few tears, and a couple sniffles. Seems like some people thought it had sent me into a weird episode. Regardless, my girlfriend started to doubt herself, and did some research online. Well, fans of FF7 are quite prolific. So much online discourse talking about this one game had proven my feelings valid enough for my girlfriend, and she had a change of heart sometime overnight.

I asked her if there was something I had done to make her so insecure about our relationship, as some commenters suggested, but she brushed it off and told me that she was just anxious because many of her friends were getting cheated on recently, and she was worried that I was growing distant. After a bit of talking we came to an understanding that I was simply getting more comfortable, and as the time between my “lovey-dovey” moments were increasing, she was worried that I was drifting away, or possibly falling for another woman. I’m quite glad that this conversation is happening now, rather than later, and now I think we’ve moved past it.

We compromised, and she promised that if she ever had a problem with my behavior again she would communicate more directly with me, as well as treat me more like a human being. She also said she wouldn’t mind trying playing a game with me, as she was interested in what she read earlier about one FF7 game. It seems the comments have also left many suggestions for games to try out.

I appreciate all your messages, and perhaps both myself and the commenters were being harsh last night, I think this is the best things could have turned out.

Also, she brought me a basket full of different yellow flowers with takeout tonight, and I almost cried again haha.

Anyways, perhaps that wasn’t the ending you guys were rooting for, but I’m glad that this is finally over, and my relationship with my girlfriend is still solid, and I have a bed to sleep in tonight. Thank you for all your advice, I appreciate it all