So, it’s been 2 months that my (36F) husband (37m) quit smoking marijuana.
well, I am glad to say, he is still sober, still staying strong, and his mood has changed so much. He still gets a little grumpy sometimes but nothing so heavy as before. He laughs a lot more and wants to do more things like go out for a walk or watch a movie with me.
He is finding his interests in things he put down for a long while like playing guitar, writing music and even playing video games.
After I saw this change in mood I asked him if he missed smoking at all. He took a long pause to think then answered, ” At the moment I want to say no but if I think about it hard enough, I do miss it.”
So I suppose that yes, he just needed time and space. Yes, he still is struggling with it but he seems more comfortable with it than he did before.
So for anyone else who is going through this with a loved one, just stay strong for them because they are trying their very best to stay strong too.
And if you are the loved one trying to stay sober, just know someone loves you and can’t wait for you to feel better.
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Let’s not pretend weed is even close to sobriety challenges from addictive drugs, why did he need to quit anyway?
He has to find other ways to regulate his endocannabanoid system there are alot of other ways to achieve this and it’s an important system to maintain.
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-endocannabinoid-system-essential-and-mysterious-202108112569
so glad to hear it’s going well!
Once you cut off a source of endorphins you have to rebalance and find them elsewhere. Takes time.
I don’t understand how people get grumpy from quitting weed, I did that a couple years back for 5 months and was never really unusually grumpy
It is life changing. In time he will not think about it and your life will be much better.
Earl Sweatshirt said “all my dreams got dimmer when i stopped smoking pot”
He deleted his dopamine. Weed is particularly insidious because you can do it for so long while being a functioning addict, but the body keeps score. Both of you will have to stay strong while his body adjusts.
Takes time for brain chemistry to realign after long term use of alcohol, drugs, medication etc.
Takes about a month for cannabis.
3-4 weeks before improvements with smoking.
6 months you a year for alcohol.
Several months for painkillers.
Engaging and doing the new things that are making them smile goes a long way. As does reminding then from time to time how proud you are of their efforts.
PAWS. Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome.
Great to see things have improved. If he can keep himself occupied with other things it is much easier not to miss it.
I quit for quite awhile and exhibited positive changes and a more cheerful demeanor. Unfortunately I decided to start smoking again when I was on a seasonal layoff from a job and was bored outta my mind. Still have the cheerful demeanor, but my motivation to do stuff isn’t that great. May have to quit again to get my motivation back.
Best of luck to you and your partner.
Did he quit for some particular reason, or did he quit based on the false virtue of being “substance free”?
I mean, if it was interfering greatly with his day to day activities or he had health concerns, that’s one thing
If it’s only because drugs = bad, then he should do whatever he wants to do
I personally prefer smoking some weed over taking a handful of pills twice a day like I used to.
My ex wife made me give up cannabis.
She decided we (me) should ‘grow up’
Turns out I am autistic and it was holding me together. Giving it up caused real world issues at work and home.
These days I am single.
But I have an amazing job, that I can happily keep due to the benefit of cannabis. And for the cannabis I have a legal prescription (uk).
For me it is the best medicine and giving it up was a bad idea.
Exercise and diet changes. Smoking cannabis for years will have effects beyond two months. It’s common to turn into a dick. He has an addictive personality gaslight him into being a gym bro and profit when he pounds you into the sheets 💁🏼♀️✨
Healthier babies too 😉
He needs a hobby.
Pretty serious if the things he just interest in were music playing guitar and video games, those 3 things go hand in hand with smoking weed. 😂 Good on him though.
I wish my former partners would have been as understanding and supportive as you. It’s really hard quitting by yourself with no support. Thank you for being there for him.
Every time I try to quit, my wife ask me why. I’m retired and weed hasn’t been a negative effect or impact on lay quality of life, the way alcohol did. I workout almost everyday, cook, clean, great sex life, and still do all my hobbies. I have mood swings, but I’ve always had mood swings. I just have less mood swings when I smoke.
I will never understand why people ask that “do you miss smoking?” You really wanna ask that question to someone trying to quite a bad habit? Forcing that person to think about it. Let me tell you the answer will always be yes, even if they tell you no the answer is still yes. If you care about him you won’t ask that question again.
ex alcoholic here. been sober since 2017, best decision.
I quit weed about 6-7 months ago after smoking about 5 years, I didn’t start to feel better until month 3-4. my wife haaattteeedd me the first couple months, and it’s much better now. It will take time, but I promise things’ll start to look up for him
Could be overstimulation from another thing. I smoked for a decade. Mine started after I quit smoking finds out it was from overstimulation from my then undiagnosed ADHD. I used to have bad mood changes and would kinda of shut down. I was diagnosed a year ago with intraneural ADHD and now am medicated and doing way better.
Finds out the weed was helping me mask my symptoms
I am 7 months sober, and it took me about 5 months to stop missing it.
My husband went through the same thing. Was so grumpy when he quit. But it got better over time and he doesn’t miss it anymore.
Bunch o addicts in here, I say to myself as I hit my weed vape
He will get past it. Mine quit drinking, smoking cigs and weed (not all at the same time) and he was a miserable fuck for the last two. After a few months he started feeling better. One thing that was helpful was seeing how much money he saved. I was putting each wad of cash he would have spent on any of those things in a jar to use for something fun like a new guitar or skateboard or something he usually wouldn’t or couldn’t buy. Give him time, be supportive. Tell him the positive changes you seen in him since he quit. Do things to distract him, go for walks in nature.
The transition to rebalance his mind state can take a long time, especially if hes been a routine smoker.
Why did he quit in the first place? Was it voluntary?
Whoa 😮 an understanding and loving woman..
That’s rare
I’m finishing up the supply I have then taking a very long break, idk how long but a long one. I have a wife, a kid, I’m reaching the point where I don’t want to be that guy that’s always stoned or just inebriated in general around their kids. But I’m dreading the mood swings. Few times I’ve taken a break for a couple weeks and I absolutely got moody, the extremely vivid dreams/nightmares every night weren’t helping either. So I’m happy for your husband and hope it continues to go well for him and hoping the same for me.
When I went cannabis cold turkey, I shared milestone months and wished my SO shared with me an NA sobriety chip. I spent plenty of time in the world of Al-Anon. I didn’t need NA, just the tangle.
Get him a chip.
Marijuana is not a drug. It’s a medicine and some of us with screws lose, can survive this harsh world with a little pick me up.
“We all get by, with the grace of God, we all get by” -cody jinks.
What was his typical delivery method when he did smoke? Was there ever nicotine or tobacco involved? This may have more of an anchor on his mood than the actual removal of thc.
Good thing you didnt just dump him like im sure half of reddit was saying.