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My fiancé and I spoke on his break at work. After reading through the comments I had a lot more questions and points to bring up to him- all of which he answered. He completely denied ever doing anything to either girl and says he only apologized to “keep peace between households”. I told him he was a coward and that if he wasn’t guilty, he shouldn’t have apologized. He agreed.
I then reached out to the family myself. I asked his mom for specifics, as well as the mom of the cousin that accused him. No solid answers. Still blank stares from the sister and “Snapchat” from the cousin. But I already checked his phone and Snapchat data. He hasn’t had the app in months and he does not have her number at all.
His mom then said to the sister that we could go to the police and have a report written up so she could have some kind of justice and she went white as a ghost and denied it. I looked at her and asked her “can you at least tell us what happened so I can know if I need to keep my kids away from him?” And she started crying. Like ugly crying.
She admitted to feeling like I was taking her “protector” away. “Everyone gets to have their happy family except for me”. She admitted to planning her pregnancy after we announced ours and proceeded to show us the texts between her and the cousin PLOTTING this shit over the last few months. They planned out what they were gonna say. They had even planned out a dick pic they had found on the internet (but once the mom had said “ok show me, I know my son has a birthmark”, that story stopped). Their mom sat there, like shocked. And I walked out of the house.
I called my fiancé and told him that he’s never to see or speak to her again. Hopefully that’s the right thing to do?? He also cried and apologized over and over for letting this happen… I just want it to be over. Our wedding is in 9 days and I feel like this just fucked up the whole experience in advance.
Can I press charges on either girl for false claims?
I’ll update again soon if there are any changes. Thanks for any advice you guys give/gave.
EDIT: Fiancé and his mom have apologized to me and promised to never keep anything from me again. I told him that he didn’t give me the chance to stand up for him (that’s my job as his partner) and he broke down and said he was just scared to lose us. So we’re gonna have to work on the trust but it’s better than what it could’ve been I guess.
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Highly destructive, very pathological sister, frankly, it’s evil. Document everything. I would never speak to her again because that is just unwise. I would look at legal options – talk to a lawyer.
Yes, false allegations happen. They aren’t as common as real allegations, but they truly happen.
You can’t press charges if you weren’t the person being targeted.
Hire security for the wedding
Better safe than sorry
Last thing you want is this mentally unwell girl showing up
Updateme
Hi, so, next time you make up a patently fake story, can you try not perpetuating an extremely damaging sociological myth based on damaging sexual abuse survivors? Thanks.
Update Me
He should get restraining orders against them. His family should make sure that anyone told those allegations now knows the truth. This is foul. You might want couples therapy before getting married. His lack of communication is a big problem as well.
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Updateme
Quite frankly, you criticize him for being weak as you control his whole life which you are able to do because he is weak.
As far as legal steps, it is only the wronged party who would have any recourse. (Not emotionally wronged but legally wronged.) So it is his decision to do that – not yours.