Update of sorts for aitah for not calling my ex wife

Before I proceed with the quasi update, I just want to preface this by stating there is more to the update than what I will say. In order to protect the privacy of some of those involved, I have decided to only write about the piece(s) that involved me.

After the post, I did receive a few more calls from some of the same people. Instead of humouring them, I decided to be blunt and state that contacting her was not my responsibility or concern and that I would block anyone asking me about her. Fast forward to a couple of days ago and the ex contacted me directly. I seriously considered not taking the call.

There is no terminal medical condition involved nor any signs of imminent death. The gist of the matter is my ex claims she was dealing with some serious (to her) mental health issues when she broke off our relationship. In the time since things ended, she decided to take the steps required to address the issues with her mental health. At some point, she and her therapist decided that she should be more transparent with her friends and family about the struggles she was experiencing. One of those struggles was regret or guilt about the way she ended the marriage – NOT that she ended it.

Enter best friend who thought it would be a good idea to rally the troops, get them to harass me into contacting ex which would in turn relieve the ex of that part of her mental health burden. Yes, the best friend is a complete idiot.

What was most striking to me about the conversation is the ex didn’t apologize for anything (least of all any of her past actions). She just wanted to inform me that she had no idea this was going on and only contacted me to clear that up. It was at this point that I told her I had heard enough and asked her to respect my time / privacy by never contacting me again. I will deal with anyone else contacting me about this on a case by case basis.

With a bit of luck, that will be the last I will hear of any of it.