Things have been intense, and I’m still processing everything, so here’s what’s been going on.
A couple of days ago, I opened up to my dad’s side grandparents about everything how I’ve been feeling left out, how fast this wedding planning is moving, and how my mom made me feel like I wasn’t a priority in her new family. They were super supportive and listened to every word. They got pretty serious about it and actually called my mom the day before yesterday. They laid it out straight: I should be her first priority, and if I’m not okay with her remarrying, she shouldn’t go through with it at all. They even said that if she decides to marry her fiancé anyway, they’d push for custody of me until I’m an adult. That was a big moment I could tell it shook my mom.
She told my grandparents she regrets making me feel this way and promised she wouldn’t do anything without my permission or comfort. I could see she was upset, maybe even second-guessing things, but it felt good to know she was finally taking my feelings seriously.
Then yesterday, we went to that dinner with my mom and her fiancé. I was nervous but decided to be upfront. I told him exactly how I feel about being left out of the wedding planning, how it hurts to see his kids included while I’m not, and how everything feels like it’s moving too fast. He tried to play it cool, saying stuff like, “It’s normal for teenagers to feel like this,” and that he and my mom would take care of me. But when I brought up postponing the wedding, he got weirdly defensive and said it “wasn’t possible.” My mom jumped in and said they should consider it, but you could tell the vibe at the table got tense. Things didn’t go as smoothly as I hoped, and I left feeling… unsettled. I don’t know what’s going to happen between them now.
I’m glad my mom seems to be listening more, and I appreciate my grandparents having my back, but I’m still worried about how this will all play out. Her fiancé’s reaction at dinner didn’t sit right with me, and I’m not sure if he’s really willing to put my feelings first. My mom suggested therapy together, which I’m open to, but I’m still waiting to see if they’ll actually delay the wedding like I asked. I just want to feel like I matter in all of this.