If you read my previous posts about this, you will see some major issues and get a little background.
A little update since last post:
* MIL and FIL hardly aknowledged my birthday this year, a huge contrast to my birthday while pregnant last year(gave me flowers and a card saying how happy they are to have me as their DIL and how excited they for the new charter coming, the baby) This year my MIL wrote a simple happy birthday wish on my Facebook wall
* they did not show up for my kids birthday party, the went to their cabin because they (only FIL is actually doing any work) had to finish up some work on a building. They texted and asked me to wish kiddo a happy birthday and to tell kiddo they have a present for them, I only delivered the happy birthday and did not feel ok with telling about the gift because I would not know when kiddo would see them. Later on they talked about the gift again, and once more, but it took them almost 2 months to actually give kiddo the gift. IMO they should have called kiddo themselves to congratulate, but what ever.
* the baby just turned 1 and they were here yesterday, bought a pretty big toy, babys first trike/bike, the sort of gift you should clarify with parents, but what ever..
* a close friend of mine have some inside info from MIL best friend, and my MIL is apparently grieving and do nothing but cry. She also wanted to talk to MY and my partners best friend about our issues to understand better. Not talk to us or at least her son about it. MIL friend was wise enough to tell her it is not a good idea.
So today our two eldest drops by MIL and FIL house and MIL feeds them each a huge ice cream, it is dinner time, the kids were told to kot eat anything anywhere when they went out beacuse dinner when they come home. The kids come back telling MIL gave them ice cream, big ones as well. The kids say that MIL even asked if they had dinner and they answered her no, and she still gave them ice cream.
She knows this is one of the things I have an issue with, so I feel like it is a power move of some sort. MIL was herr yesterday and knows the kids ate cake etc then.
I told my partner it feels like she is doing it on purpose, he disagrees. But I am not sure what he thinks when the kids told MIL even asked if they had dinner.
I am son sick of this lady and her making herself a victim. She is DUMB as shit if she needs MY friend to explain why the situation is difficult.
I think she knows what she is doing and just wants to show that she could not care less about the rules we set around ANYTHING.
Should I text her? Should my partner talk to her? Or should be ban the kids from goin there? I am sick of this.
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Nobody from extended family owes you anything for birthday. Thats acting very entitled. Everybody needs to get over this belief that people are buttholes for not making them the center ofmthe universe on their birthday. Its your holiday, not wveryone elses. Especially for grownass adults.