I wasn’t going to update but this got crazy.
I have a friend, “Anna”, who’s close with Paige and dating my best friend. Anna got back from study abroad and this was our text (copy and pasted since i can’t add pics)
A: Hey this is rly random but did DD talk to you about what happened in March?
Me: yeah she hmu right away why?
A: Idk man she told me what happened. I know things are weird w y’all and I wanted to make sure she actually told you and y’all went to a doctor.
Me: yeah like while agodid you want me to talk to her?
A: Ik she wants to talk to u but that’s not my business idc. This isn’t either i just wanted to make sure you were good
Me: yeah alright welcome back thanks for checking, i’m over it now so i’m fine
i assumed she meant the “miscarriage” that Paige’s other friend’s texted me to help her through. but i saw Anna in person after this and she asked me if “being good meant testing negative or getting treatment.”
i was confused and she explained what Paige told her, which i’m guessing is the truth.
Paige told Ana she was sleeping around before and after we broke up and got pregnant. Paige was confident it was NOT mine and got an abortion. when getting checked after (in march) she got diagnosed with chlamydia.
the only thing i’m mad about is that she didn’t tell me she had an STD, i’m honestly over all the other stuff at this point.
also i want to note that it’s super weird that Paige told Anna. Anna both caught me cheating and told Paige AND caught Paige cheating and told me. she’s a great friend but a total narc. not my go-to for secrets.
anyway, my partner and I have appointments to get tested because i might had chlamydia for 6 months. idk if i should text Paige and chew her out i’m so pissed off.
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NTA. I could be completely wrong and being unfair to your ex, but I can’t help but wonder if, in her head, this is how she is “ punishing “ you for failing to come back to the relationship. She didn’t miscarry, she aborted. It’s absolutely her right and her choice to do so, (and probably wise, under the circumstances) but one allows for her to demand your sympathy and emotional support much more than the other.
Always get an STD test if your partner has cheated. You never know what “gift” she left you. In any case, it’s wise to have an STD test before starting a new relationship.
Your ex told Anna knowing it’d get back to you, so you either get tested but she doesn’t have to tell you (if it’s true), or (if it’s not true) so you’ll reach out even if it’s for chewing her out. Get tested. Don’t engage with her. That’s most probably what she wants.
Send her an anonymous message, “you can be criminally charged for having sex with someone and not declaring that you have a STD”
You can actually press charges in places if she gave you an std knowingly OR not informing you when she found out. And since you have a friend who always tells the truth ( not a narc) it would be easy to prove in court cause she wont lie under oath.
What do you mean ana is a narc? She’s literally the only decent person in this whole ordeal. ANYONE who finds out someone else is cheating should reach out to the cheated part and let them know they’re being disrespected in that way.
Don’t reach out to your ex. Block her on everything, and both you and your new partner get a full STD panel. She’s clearly been lying to you, and you don’t need this crap in your life.
Don’t let your ex keep pulling you back in. There is no point in it and continues the cycle of emotional abuse towards you.
Go build your best life and close this chapter, OP.
NTA now block all of them and move on with your life from all the toxic crazies.
Yta for calling Paige a narc. You should still get tested. But with you and her ex cheating on each other the only decent person here is Paige.